she don't run from the sun no more

[pipsqueaky]

Tonight I went to a bar (or two) with some good friends of mine whom I love and adore, and some of *their* friends whom I knew rather less well. It was mostly fun and good times and I enjoyed myself. And then

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[chickwithmonkey]

Way to handle that guy, and please don't let his bad behavior make you feel bad (which you said it didn't, but then there are some related bad feelings, or just awkward ones, and you know thinky thoughts are never bad, so it's good to have these, but not if there is bad attached from some asshole ARGH let me start over, okay?)

Way to handle that guy. From what I've seen of your social graces, they're just fine. You're very pretty, and also smart and sweet and fun to be around. Keep blooming, please. I think your friends would agree with me. :)

[pipsqueaky]

Aww, thank you very much. :) I wish we could hang out more often, as you are quite fun to be around yourself! And yeah, I'm grateful that I was able to get something good (a little introspection and epiphany) out of a douchebag comment.

[aj]

Wow, this sounds so much like a lot of what runs through my head. At least, the last part does. That it completely doesn't occur to me that people would find me in the least bit desirable/attractive and that any attention like that confuses the hell out of me and kind of freezes me up.

That being said, that guy IS a douche. I don't think anyone is super-comfortable with all compliments and that when you DO get blase about it, you need a punch to the arm or a slap to the head as a wake up. I'm sorry your night ended on a sour note. *sends good vibes*

[pipsqueaky]

That it completely doesn't occur to me that people would find me in the least bit desirable/attractive and that any attention like that confuses the hell out of me and kind of freezes me up.

Yes! That right there! Exactly. I've learned that no matter what my response, it should really be a bit more eloquent than "...buh?" Thanks for the good vibes.

[sockkpuppett]

OMG Pips! You've done the one thing that will keep the Asshole around your neck like an albatross. Like I tell my girls, there are two ways, generally speaking, to guarantee a man's undivided attention: 1. Look/act as if you're not interested/can't be had. 2. Look/act as if you're not interested/can't be had.

Too bad you could get arrested, because a punch in the mouth seems so appropriate here.

Also? I'm thinking about self-image. You are a stunning woman. Of course, you don't think so. You see yourself everyday and are intimately acquainted with your (perceived) shortcomings, but trust me. Stunning.

.. and the way to take a compliment? Say "thank you." **hugs you from a distance**

[pipsqueaky]

You've done the one thing that will keep the Asshole around your neck like an albatross.

OH FUCKING HELL. ...Um. I shall propose marriage the next time I see him! (Luckily he doesn't actually live in Chicago, so I'm fairly certain he'll be easy to avoid from now on.)

Can I just say how envious I am of your girls? They got the most AWESOME pearls of wisdom from their mother. I only wish I'd been half as prepared for "real life" as they surely are. *hugs you back*

And thank you very much! (see, I'm learning!) ;)

[darkpoole]

(1) Yeah. What an asshole. And a prick as well. He manages to pull off both at once.

(2) On the whole shy nerdy wallflower thing, and not thinking anyone would ever want you ... I know exactly where you're coming from. I grew up the same way. If people are hitting on you now, it's probably got a lot to do with your new-found self-confidence.

(3) You are, in fact, quite pretty. (Assuming that the photographs you post here really ARE you, and not the cute friend you're using to conceal your identity.) More importantly, you're smart, funny, and talented, and you write well. Those factors persuaded me to friend you on LJ even though I've never met you IRL.

(4) I have a hard time taking compliments too. I usually have some variation of "thanks but it isn't true." I really need to learn how to stop at "thanks."

[pipsqueaky]

1) He really, really does. Sigh.

2) It seems like a lot of us have self-esteem scars left over from childhood/puberty, don't we? It sucks that it takes so much work to overcome those later in life.

3) Aw, thank you! (And yes, those photographs are of me, hee. The ones that get posted are pretty much the only good ones, though, because most of the time I am terribly unphotogenic.) And I can't believe we've never actually met! That seems wrong somehow.

4) I know exactly what you mean, I have a tendency to do the same thing. Let's both work on stopping at "thanks"!

[renenet]

Hi! Wow, that guy was a total JERKFACE, but I get how it hit buttons for you about stuff you actually want to think about about your life (even though I completely agree with your analysis of how his remarks were not about what was *really* going on in that situation). So, um, yay, personal reflection! Also yay pretty, pretty Pips! You are such an awesome combination of beautiful on the inside AND the outside! It's important to stay grounded with the inner beauty, but I'm also glad that you are becoming more comfortable and confident about your physical appearance and allure, because, girl, you are SMOKIN' HOT and you can have it all! Just, y'know, don't let it go to your head TOO much. I think you're doing well. *mwah*

[pipsqueaky]

Thank you, darling! I will attempt to stay grounded. (And yes, TOTAL JERKFACE.) *mwah*