Comments | pinkcorsair: Love before first sight?

pinkcorsair

Love before first sight?

Mar 12, 2005 00:35

Can you have real feeling for someone before you me them physically. Can you start a relationship with just electonic messaging alone? If you share your deepest secrets with them and they share their's with you, isn't that enough? The joy you feel talking (e-mailing) is something, right ( Read more... )

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larilee March 12 2005, 14:44:22 UTC

I think it takes a long time to build up any relationship. So it would depend on a couple of things. How long have you known this person? How many e-mails discussing deep subjects have you exchanged? Are both parties telling the truth? Is distance a problem? For example, if they live in East Upper Mongolia, there's probably little chance you will ever meet.

I met one of my closest friends online. We exchanged e-mails for close to two months before deciding on a physical meeting. And this was just for friendship, nothing more. If it had been a possible relationship, it would've been a lot longer.

Standard disclaimer applies. Whenever you meet someone from online, make sure you meet in a public place. Let your friends know who you're meeting, where and when.

rachel_w March 18 2005, 05:17:42 UTC

I'm not sure you can. It's so easy online for a person to represent what they want you to see. A lot of times, you'll have one impression of someone online, but when you finally meet them, they're totally different than you'd imagined. Now, I'm not saying it's impossible to get a good impression, it can just be improbable ( ... )

pinkcorsair March 18 2005, 05:30:25 UTC

You make some very good point Rachel. You just don't know if there will be a spark until you meet face to face. We do already know what each other looks like, maybe talking on the phone should be the next step before we meet in person. A person voice can tell you a lot, I think.

PS If you don't mind me asking, what is your religion?

rachel_w April 18 2005, 19:30:11 UTC

My religion is Asatru/Norse Heathenry. We honor the Gods and Goddesses Thor, Odin, Frigga, Freya, Frey...ect, ect. Most people are good, sensible folk, but we get our share of flakes and weirdos too ;-)

elliek_21 April 5 2005, 17:19:51 UTC

I believe you can begin the relationship online, but then there must be some sort of natural progression. Phone conversations would be the next logical step, and then perhaps meeting in person.

I truly believe that sharing honest feelings, ideas, values, etc. is an excellent foundation for a relationship. Remember though, it is easy to build up a person in one's head. There is no such thing as the perfect person or relationship. However, it may be worth looking into ;)