Comments | photogirl0180: Baby Anxiety??

photogirl0180

Baby Anxiety??

Apr 06, 2009 12:56

I have baby fever bad. I've even been recently having dreams about having kids. I feel so torn. We have an OK savings but I still think its not enough. Yes we have a home. Yes we both have jobs. Yes we have health insurance Do you think its smart to have a baby if you aren't completely financialy stable??

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sweetemmjay April 6 2009, 17:40:04 UTC

Hi Chrissy!!

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to have a baby now. Homes, jobs, health insurance...all very necessary. What is complete financial stability anyway? With pregnancy and a child come responsibility and rearanging your priorities, instead of buying that one thing for yourself or going out to dinner a few times a month, you just dont. You use that money for your child. I personally think the mentality of waiting for the next best thing or the perfect situation is dangerous....what if the "perfect storm" never comes?

P.S. don't let my icon fool you. I am not pregnant. Just using some LJ communities to do a little business research for www.terrababy.com.

be well lady!
xoxox

babyogg April 6 2009, 18:09:47 UTC

I couldn't agree more with this!
Ha... what is financial stability I say as we're brewing kid #3.... lol.

photogirl0180 April 6 2009, 18:10:39 UTC

I've made some bad decissions in my life. I just don't want to screw up this one. I'm trying to let go and let it happen naturally but i'm a planner. Ed would have had me prego like 6 months ago if he had the chance. I keep telling him that we are not ready but it's not so much that i'm not ready but I'm really scared!

babyogg April 6 2009, 18:12:35 UTC

What are you scared of exactly?
Being pregnant is the easy part compared to child rearing...
I mean, it takes sacrafice, big time. It's no longer about you - it's about this little one(s). I get so sick of "Me time" complaints... from these self proclaimed "moms". I'm sorry but I didn't have a baby to have more "me time" - I'll get that when they're out of the house.

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sweetemmjay April 6 2009, 17:45:19 UTC

oh, never mind, I'm not wearing the icon I thought I was! LOL

babyogg April 6 2009, 18:10:41 UTC

LOVE YOUR WEBSITE!

sweetemmjay April 6 2009, 18:14:37 UTC

Thanks Melissa :)
Baby number 3?? My goodness, time flies! CONGRATULATIONS!! :)

babyogg April 6 2009, 18:19:24 UTC

Thanks yes, this one was a shocker. EDD is 3 weeks after Lily's first bday :)

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applesauce55 April 6 2009, 17:59:45 UTC

I got pregnant with Landon when I wasn't financially stable...and I'm still not. Heh. I don't think there's a perfect setup for baby making. It's not fair to a lot of people. If we all had to be financially stable for babies there would be a lot of sad people.

photogirl0180 April 6 2009, 18:23:09 UTC

I don't think we all have to be financially stable. I just don't have the confidence in myself right now.

jennyboomboom April 7 2009, 05:14:40 UTC

we planned to not plan, but i knew we were ready for whatever came out of it.

i don't know if you can really even be "ready" to be a mom the more i think about it... i mean how do you know you are ready for an unknown?

i can tell you one thing, it's definately not boring... my cousin was complaining about monday today, and i said oh everyday is monday to me. so she said why? cause you never get a break? and i said no cause everyday is a new beginning... and really as cheesey as it sounds, is how i look at it