I think that perhaps, on some level, you over-expect pod!mommies and helicopter parents. Don't get me wrong, I know that they're there, but I don't think you've given yourself a chance to find out if any of them are more than that. I know it's hard with the anxiety, but it might pay off to try a couple of times and see what you come up with. As reannon says, having other parents who know where you're coming from can be exceedingly helpful.
Hell, if you met me in some other forum, it's quite possible that you'd think I was a pod!mommy at first.
Part of the problem is that they tend to gravitate towards us because we both have Very Visible Disabilities. And in wanting to be helpful they go too far too fast (there's often a lot of grabbing, which I just hate, among other things - it throws me off balance for one thing, plus having random strangers grab you out of the clear blue nothing is just not cool.) And if that sort of thing happens it too easily spoils any potentially positive experience, you know?
I'd be breaking some arms. I know how people do that and I just do NOT understand. It's like encouraging your kids play with a service dog without even talking to the person. WTF? People are freaking stupid.
I do know. I get a hell of a lot of this stuff and my issues aren't even very visible. I do think that there might be something beneficial there, too. I just don't know how to get past the other bull to find it.
You might want to have a word with the school about this. Having them explicitly note that some parents have disabilities, are coping well and that trying to "help" when you haven't been asked is not only rude but can *cause* accidents.
This may boggle some folks at the school. But if it does, that's *good* because it might break thru their wall of ignorance. And once you get the school on your side, then they can help ride herd on the overly helpful parents
And if they are doing it to you and Chris, they are likely doing it to other people's kids, which is also a Very Bad Thing.
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Hell, if you met me in some other forum, it's quite possible that you'd think I was a pod!mommy at first.
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And if that sort of thing happens it too easily spoils any potentially positive experience, you know?
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I do know. I get a hell of a lot of this stuff and my issues aren't even very visible. I do think that there might be something beneficial there, too. I just don't know how to get past the other bull to find it.
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This may boggle some folks at the school. But if it does, that's *good* because it might break thru their wall of ignorance. And once you get the school on your side, then they can help ride herd on the overly helpful parents
And if they are doing it to you and Chris, they are likely doing it to other people's kids, which is also a Very Bad Thing.
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