Rather than post my response separately, here's what I have to say to that question:
I think "I'm sorry" is almost always wholly inadequate, but I also think that forgiveness lies not within what another person says (or doesn't say) about their transgression, but within one's self and the ability to see things from the trangressor's point of view. Words will never "fix" something, but an understanding of what led another to transgress against one can lead to acceptance, and therefore forgiveness.
Really wished this wasn't anonymous so the person would see and hopefully respond to this, but I have to ask anyway.
So, is saying nothing better?
At least I'm sorry shows SOME contrition. Whereas saying nothing... well... IS nothing.
While I do most assuredly agree that words, without actions, don't really mean shit. In that case, I'm sorry is really something done more to make the 1 person that transgressed, feel better, than it is about making the person that was wronged, feel better, or at least, vindicated.
I've spent most of my life apologizing because my mouth usually gets me in trouble. However, of the many, many things that have intentionally been done to me out of sheer vindictiveness, I've yet to this day, have any of those parties say so much as an "I'm sorry".
Just the difference between a human being, and a shit bag. IMO.
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I think "I'm sorry" is almost always wholly inadequate, but I also think that forgiveness lies not within what another person says (or doesn't say) about their transgression, but within one's self and the ability to see things from the trangressor's point of view. Words will never "fix" something, but an understanding of what led another to transgress against one can lead to acceptance, and therefore forgiveness.
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Afraid to identify yourself?
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So, is saying nothing better?
At least I'm sorry shows SOME contrition. Whereas saying nothing... well... IS nothing.
While I do most assuredly agree that words, without actions, don't really mean shit. In that case, I'm sorry is really something done more to make the 1 person that transgressed, feel better, than it is about making the person that was wronged, feel better, or at least, vindicated.
I've spent most of my life apologizing because my mouth usually gets me in trouble. However, of the many, many things that have intentionally been done to me out of sheer vindictiveness, I've yet to this day, have any of those parties say so much as an "I'm sorry".
Just the difference between a human being, and a shit bag. IMO.
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Even more sad, the persons in question, likely wouldn't apologize if they were on their death bed taking their last breaths.
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