Wedding Fun/Embarrassment

[penguingal]

Saturday I went to a wedding. My good friend from high school was at last getting married, and I was happy to be there. To my dismay, during her reception, she did the whole tossing the bouquet/garter thing. This is a tradition I dislike and I think it should be done away with. Apparently, I am not the only one, as none of the single women who

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[liltrblemakr]

More and more, I don't see myself as ever getting to have that kind of love. The love that says "I know you and all your faults and I love you passionately anyway." The love that says "I choose you above everyone else to spend the rest of my life with."

I SO hear you on this! Especially now.

*Hugs*

[penguingal]

*HUGS* I dislike losing that optimism because I don't like to think of myself as that cynical, but still...

[liltrblemakr]

I hear that!! That's why I love my new icon... ;)

Couldn't have found it at a better time.

[penguingal]

It is truly excellent.

[warriorqueen76]

Get them young and raise them like you want them:)

[penguingal]

*snort* The kid's father did say that he thought his son was too young for me. I replied that I was willing to wait! :D

[uneedak1u]

"I've always said that the love you need finds you when you stop searching for it."

I used to say that to a lot of people, but never believed it. Now, I can say that I believe it, too.

Go about your life; enjoy your friends; fill your time. When the right one comes along, you'll have so much else on your mind that you'll barely be able to find time to fit 'em in.

[penguingal]

That's what I'm doing, by and large. I'm not unhappy, but it was hard in that moment, as the wedding started, to realize/feel that it was something I'd likely never have for myself.

[1trackmind]

*hugs* Love will find you. Of that, I'm sure.

[penguingal]

*hugs* I'm glad one of us is. ;)

[melissima]

me too. no doubt.

[xtradry]

Me three. I am flamboyantly, audaciously optimistic about a few things, you know. That you will find the love of your life and be happy together is one of them.

[laminy]

The whole 'five year old boy putting the garter on me' is the only thing that I would have a problem with.

I'm not really sure though, and maybe it's because I'm a little younger and naive; why do you want the garter/bouquet tradition done away with?

[penguingal]

The bouquet throwing tradition carries with it this sense of "I'm getting married! And now you have to, too!" Marriage isn't for everyone. Some people may never get married. And you can never know who is struggling with being single and who has accepted it. It can be very painful for people to not be with someone, especially as they get older. The more you have to go through it (and you do go through it because you love at least one of the people getting married and you don't want to hurt their feelings), the more you start to dislike it. I was so happy my brother and sister in law didn't do it at their wedding.

[laminy]

I guess the whole me being young and naive did play into it then. I just see most of the things at weddings as silly traditions that people do for fun.

Of course, I'm still a teenager, so we'll see how I feel about it when I'm older and not married. I probably won't even wanna go to the wedding in the first place.

[penguingal]

Weddings are beautiful things and it is important to go celebrate the union of people whom you love. J looked absolutely radiant. But yeah being unmarried/unattached and without any prospects at the moment, I could have done without being paraded in front of the rest of the wedding guests.