Boyfriend Hunting

[pendo]

Being single has really gotten me down the past week or so. I don't know why. I really need a boyfriend! I feel so lonely. I've got lots and lots of friends, but I need one person I can share my life with, someone I can snuggle up with. It's not about sex, it's nothing that going out and finding a random shag will cure, I just miss the

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[jstevens1986]

I think I could actually copy and paste this entry and post it myself.

I've been feeling like that for weeks now and it's just unfair :o(

xxx

[rickyorr]

agreed with james.

i have been thinking about it all more and more as i hurtle head first into the grand old age of 25 in less than 2 months!!

xx

[addsimpson]

I won't date anyone who does drugs, which takes away about 95% of the gay population

I think that's a bit of an exaggeration. Perhaps 95% of the G-Bar population, but certainly not of the gay population. Lots of gay guys don't even go out on the scene.

Friend-of-a-friend is always a safe bet. If your friends know you are looking for someone they may be able to recommend someone. At least they will have been able to check the guy isn't crazy or into drugs.

[pendo]

Yes I was exaggerating, but it is a very large population of the clubbing crowd who do drugs. Not just the gay population, but also striaghts too. I was mostly referring to clubbers, I'm aware that not everyone goes clubbing, but because that's where I meet most of my boyfriends I was focusing on the clubbing scene.

Believe it or not I've had very bad experiences with friend-of-a-friend: my stalker Ashley and AWOL Ste. I'd probably try friend-of-a-friend again but I worry that if it doesn't work out it may affect my friendships.

[poke_me_an_die]

"Everyone says that I won't find a relationship by looking, it will just happen when the right guy comes along."

People who belive that are usually single and lonely!

Im far from being a relationship 'guru' or anything, seems as nearly all (but one) guy ive met, ive met over the internet, haha! But i wouldnt stop looking for mr right.

Maybe clubs arent the best 'scene' to meet guys. From what ive heard, they are only ever after sex, or one night stands. Try other places, sounds silly, but people sad coffee shops are great places to meet guys! I wouldnt know, but try a different scene.

They say that relationships between people who met over the internet never last longer than 3 weeks, but ive been with Ryan 7 months, and we are still going strong, and look at Hobbitlife! People say its sad to meet people off the net, but its just a modern way of meeting people.

Good luck =)

x

[kneale]

I've stopped worrying about all of this to be honest, I'm not going to waste my energy. If it happens, it happens. Most of my friends are having a nightmare in their relationships and half of them ask me what the point is. Do I really want to be like them?

Also, you seem to be on a high horse about people taking drugs. Don't stereotype all drug users. That's just like stereotyping black or old people.

[pendo]

I am on a high horse about drugs - I DON'T LIKE THEM! And I have every right to dislike them. And I'm not stereotyping the drug users, I simply don't like the effects drugs have on people and it's a big turn-off for me. Also, whenever I've dated drug-users in the past, whenever we've been out and they're taking drugs I can't enjoy myself because I get too worried about what they're taking and stuff. I shouldn't need to worry about such things in my life.