Comments | pellnell: I look like a crime scene death.

pellnell

I look like a crime scene death.

Dec 25, 2008 20:14

My dad let slip tonight that I'm "too heavy ( Read more... )

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ogiraffe December 26 2008, 05:38:59 UTC

Jesus that's a horrible thing to say :( You're at a totally healthy weight too!

I know the feeling though. I hope you feel better, bb :(

pellnell December 26 2008, 20:42:30 UTC

Thank you!

pianoangel87 December 26 2008, 05:51:22 UTC

*huggles* I know this feeling w/ my own family. I agree you're at a healthy weight! Feel better!

pellnell December 26 2008, 20:42:59 UTC

Thanks! I appreciate the solidarity!

rwasundi December 26 2008, 06:03:51 UTC

being 118 and 5'3 makes you the COMPLETE OPPOSITE OF FAT ( ... )

pellnell December 26 2008, 20:45:29 UTC

Thank you so much for all that. I'm a member of one of the ED communities, and it's really depressing because it's not about supporting people for feeling fat, but about supporting people in their ridiculous starvation. It really helps to hear from someone else who understands that irrational body image fear.

Thank you. ♥

threw_a_spark December 26 2008, 08:15:21 UTC

Fathers should be given a memo shortly after the birth of a child, and that memo will let them know that it is never okay to mention weight anything to their child, doubly so if it is female. A slight allowance can be made for anyone with a child who is literally morbidly obese, but even then, they will need to get written permission from another person before bringing it up. And yes, this sounds arcanely lame, but it's coming from someone who still remembers random NON-weight related comments that my own dad made while I was in junior high. Like the time we were in Target, back when all the cool girls were wearing boxer shorts, and I really wanted a pair? And he was like, "boxer shorts are for dykes". Which isn't the sort of thing my father usually says, anyway, not in that way, but it just peeled open his brain for a second, and my own brain carefully noted just what he thought about that, and what he would think about me if I did anything like that. I don't care if you're the father of a crosseyed, purple, four-nosed midget, she ( ... )

threw_a_spark December 26 2008, 08:18:51 UTC

What am I saying, condensed souply? Maybe I just let everybody else's hands speak louder than my dad's voice. I guess that sort of validation can lead to messed up things, but it doesn't have to. You just have to listen.

pellnell December 26 2008, 20:46:09 UTC

Thank you. That makes perfect sense.