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[patchfire]

Today had some general suckage. Nothing huge, just greyness. Like the weather. Then I was finally getting ready to return your message, jenneygoot, and instead managed to delete it. Sam took about an hour and a half to get to work because of the weather* and consequently got home just before I had to leave to go to my meeting, where I met this pretty cool

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[patchfire]

Mainly about how the 'board' was just the same clique running their own little agenda and such. Apparently she had even tried to get on the board but, as she put it, she didn't pass "the sniff test." She said she was probably going to pull her son out and put him back at West Side next year. I told her I knew someone who had had problems and when I very briefly explained them she sort of snorted and said she wasn't surprised, and later made a comment about all the board people being "in the same Sunday School class

[alexisyael]

I personally think the rise of the dildo cam at 9 weeks has to do with all the hysteria surrounding infertility (for, you know, good reasons, it is fucking HARD to be infertile and then suddenly be pregnant... you feel like it could end at any moment, especially if you've had multiple miscarriages!)

I want to hear more about the Getting Off book!

[patchfire]

I can dig that, but it seems like it's now somewhat standard of care, even for patients with no prior miscarriages, no problems conceiving, and all of that. I read a comment yesterday - on MDC of all places - where the doctor wanted her to have a dating scan, even though she had been charting. The doctor accepted the chart as valid, mind, it wasn't that, it was just, we have to verify this with an ultrasound at 8 weeks. Which boggles my mind.

The book.. it's awful, you know, because it brings up so many things that people don't want to hear, but it does fit with some of own personal approach/beliefs about feminism - that the way forward for society is not to have women become more like the stereotypical men, but for both men and women to leave their gender roles and be human and make a new way. Not that, you know, I would advocate total societal restructurin... oh wait, yes I would

[tellinellen]

when i got pregnant the first time, i called the OB/GYN who did my regular gyn care and got things started with him, knowing i'd eventually transfer to midwifery care. they did a blood test to confirm pregnancy, and at my first visit (6w? 8w?) did a vaginal ultrasound and a repeat blood draw to see if my hcg had doubled or whatever. since they see high risk people i guess they have just taken practices appropriate for high risk and made it for everyone. they did another ultrasound at 11w i think, just in the office, even though i declined the NTT etc. oh he also told me not to transfer and that "midwives are bad."

full disclosure - when i got pregnant again, i called an OB i know and made a "pregnancy confirmation" appointment, knowing that i was going to switch to a homebirth midwife. partly because i was so in shock that i was pregnant, and partly because the minute i learned about hydatidiform moles i was afraid of that happening to me, G-d forbid.