Yes. Hands down. This is, essentially, the closest we can get to "doing it over again." We would be able to guide our child-selves armed with the knowledge of having already lived the experience. It would be pretty awesome.
I'd be mostly curious about how my child self would respond to my adult self's guidance... i.e., would he make different choices, or would they still be the same choices after all. Perhaps much of life truly is destiny.
I kinda already was. I spent a lot of my childhood parenting my mother, and being responsible for myself.
But more in line with what I think you were actually asking, I have been really amazed at how well I've done with Hunter. I was always fearful that I would distill all the negatives of my parents and be the worst grown up in a child's life ever. But as it turns out, when I'm with Hunter I'm calmer, more patient, and more even tempered that I could have ever imagined. I think, if I'd had the chance, I would have made a good mom.
Hahah. When I was a kid, my mother frequently said, usually in some kind of ominous tone on the tail of some kind of punishment, that someday I would grow up and have a daughter just like me and oh boy, wouldn't I be sorry then.
My brother can confirm how often this came up.
(Now she seems sad at my curious lack of desire for children. Huh.)
This doesn't really answer the question, I guess, but... not really. I am wholly capable, as a kid as well as now, of being a pretty stubborn and self righteous pain in the ass to people with whom I strongly disagree. A battle of wills between me and my 15-year-old self might get someone killed.
Mom and I had very different experiences with adolescence, so she didn't really know how to handle or relate to me at all, especially in high school. So what she possibly really meant to threaten was that I would grow up and have a daughter very much unlike me. *shrug*
Yes, but a parent to me, not some random kid/spawn. I'd be a good parent for myself. I don't know about anyone else. I lack patience for clingy/whining behavior, big time. One of many reasons I don't have kids.
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I'd be mostly curious about how my child self would respond to my adult self's guidance... i.e., would he make different choices, or would they still be the same choices after all. Perhaps much of life truly is destiny.
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But more in line with what I think you were actually asking, I have been really amazed at how well I've done with Hunter. I was always fearful that I would distill all the negatives of my parents and be the worst grown up in a child's life ever. But as it turns out, when I'm with Hunter I'm calmer, more patient, and more even tempered that I could have ever imagined. I think, if I'd had the chance, I would have made a good mom.
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My brother can confirm how often this came up.
(Now she seems sad at my curious lack of desire for children. Huh.)
This doesn't really answer the question, I guess, but... not really. I am wholly capable, as a kid as well as now, of being a pretty stubborn and self righteous pain in the ass to people with whom I strongly disagree. A battle of wills between me and my 15-year-old self might get someone killed.
Mom and I had very different experiences with adolescence, so she didn't really know how to handle or relate to me at all, especially in high school. So what she possibly really meant to threaten was that I would grow up and have a daughter very much unlike me. *shrug*
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