There is depressed~

[paranoia_pistol]

I would like some tidbits of advice, if possible.

How do I handle criticism? D: I mean, how do I bring myself to not get depressed over it?

I've always sucked at taking constructive criticism well, and I have lost so many friendships over it that I can't even wish it was funny. D: I just wanted to know, though, if it is possible for me to get over

Comments

[nochick_fics]

:( *hugs*

Aw, sweetie. I am unfortunately probably the worst person to give advice about this (don't get me started about critiquing and such, lol). But what I do want to say to you is that if you are content with what you do, then you shouldn't let critique- constructive or otherwise- get to you, not to the point where it's destroying friendships. Because it's only words, babe. Words. SO not worth fretting or losing friends over.

I *would* suggest that you don't solicit constructive criticism until you think you are able to handle it. And if someone gives you UNsolicited critique, you could always do what I do: thank them from the bottom of your heart and kindly remind them that you don't care. (I'm such a bitch, lol >.<)

But seriously though, I hate to see anyone troubled over fic, so I felt compelled to respond, even if I'm not really all that much help.

Good luck.

~xoxo

[paranoia_pistol]

But, you helped. :D You're better at this advice thing than you thought, miss. :D

Thank you~ I don't actually ask for reviews, because that's just asking to get criticized. D: But! This has actually been an eye-opening experience, as I feel a lot better and I probably won't get sad next time someone tells me that I "might" be a good writer if I didn't do blah or blah.

That was really the main part that got me--the fact that someone who doesn't write that well themselves said that I "might" be worth something in the future. But, I replied that it was okay because I'm already a kickass writer, but thank you for telling me. Lol, it looks like I'm taking your advice without even realizing it.

Thank you muchly~

Btw, ILU SO HARD FOR THAT FIC.

I did a backflip when I checked my inbox.

In joy.

[nochick_fics]

That makes me happy to hear. I'm glad you like it. <3

[sesshy_is_sexii]

I'm probably going to go on and on and I apologize for that but here's my best attempt at helping you out hon >_>;

For some people, when they do something they can be satisfied with the fact that they did do it, completed whatever they set out to do and that’s that. And while that’s all and good sometimes it’s much nicer to hear someone else’s opinion and hopefully you’ll hear good things. Why do a large majority of people share their work (whether it is fiction, art, music, etc)? We like praise, even if it’s not a goal, it’s certainly nice. And the hope when feedback is requested is once you’ve read/heard what was given to you you’ll be happy and not want to punch someone in the face/get depressed.

In terms of asking, feedback gives openings for criticism. Now, sometimes constructive criticism is hard to take, no matter how polite or sugar coated it may be (or blunt, pending on the person/situation). You said constructive criticism upsets you? It might nor have an effect over night but I think the main you should remember is: they’

[paranoia_pistol]

I, I think I love you. :)

As impossible as I once thought it was, I can actually think beyond what I feel and think about what they're trying to tell me--as annoyed as I feel. :D On the other hand, I don't ask for reviews, because by asking for reviews I'm virtually asking for criticism, which is obviously something I'm no good with.

Yet, I might have to start asking for more criticism--I may write for myself, but sometimes it feels like someone might like what I'm thinking too. :D It might be awesome to be a better writer for another's sake as well. :D

Of course, I will say "Fuck you" if the criticism isn't constructive and they're just trying to say I suck. I'm comfortable with myself enough to know that I am actually an okay writer with a bad habit of violating dialogue.

I really really do love you. Really. :D Thank you so much~

[sesshy_is_sexii]

Aw, anytime ♥

I'm glad I could help, and I'm glad you said that. Nothing's impossible if you don't let it be, and I'm sure you'll do just fine. Criticism can be a rough rode to travel on but the further along you go the smoother the ride and oh god, I ended up breaking out a metaphor anyway xD;;

I love you too ♥

[ihatesasuke]

Someone giving constructive criticism to you? Of all people, you?
Well, that just shakes my boat a bit considering how much better you are at writing than I am. xD

I'm probably not the best at giving advice, but I'd say just to take it as them trying to help (as long as they are being nice about it) and even if you disagree thank them for the help. It can definitely be hard to take critiquing, but you know at the end of the day if you like it, then that's something that's really important. Everyone has certain points that they can improve on, I mean, there really is no perfect writer. It's just not going to happen

[tisblissy]

Well you don't know me, and I pretty much clicked on your lj out of curiosity, but the very first thing I saw was this post

[freakingcage7]

I'll help as best as I can, but even the best of intentions can bring harm