Oh man, I can't wait for tallulah99 to see this post, because she knows EXACTLY how you feel. *g*
I've never been in your situation, but someone second-guessing every parental decision I made would annoy the crap out of me, too. Is she usually such a worrywart about other things?
Man, I tell you what, I have no idea why it took me so long to friend tallulah99, she and I have a lot in common! I must thank you for introducing us! As for whether or not she is usually a worrywart - well, only when I'm concerned :P (seriously, don't get me started. I could go on for hours.)
My sister's baby (y'know, the little 7-month-old) has consistently had 6 feeds for most of his life (I think now he sometimes has only 5, but he's been on solids, too, for the past month) - and every time my sister worried that he'd only had 3 and it was already tea-time, he'd suddenly want three more by the end of the 24 hours. He always made sure he got enough!
My sister also feels that often well-meaning family and friends around her give advice that makes her feel pressured and question whether she's doing what's right. But she comes back to all the things you've said - about him gaining weight consistently and all of that. So just keep reassuring yourself and having faith in yourself. Of course, it doesn't help the annoyingness of the MIL, but it's nice to know that you're not the only one who feels that way.
If he's gaining weight steadily and is healthy, there's nothing whatsoever wrong with the quantity or quality of your breast milk. Gawd, the interfering cow! My ex-MiL was of the same ilk - I was never doing right by HER grandson (which was obviously a higher priority than MY SON). It was actually a bit the opposite problem - The Wriggler has always had a massive appetite despite being little, and he had probs putting birth weight back on. I starting supplementing with formula cos I just couldn't seem to feed him enough. But MiL was convinced he was crying because I wasn't holding him right or something, and the only solution was for me to hand him over to her. I got "don't be ridiculous, he can't possibly be hungry" with undertones of "I've had loads of grandchildren so obviously I know what he's crying about far better than you". And then he hoovered 4oz in about 30 seconds flat. Hah!
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I've never been in your situation, but someone second-guessing every parental decision I made would annoy the crap out of me, too. Is she usually such a worrywart about other things?
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As for whether or not she is usually a worrywart - well, only when I'm concerned :P
(seriously, don't get me started. I could go on for hours.)
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Gotta love someone who's only neurotic when it comes to you. *snort* That makes it even sillier, really.
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My sister also feels that often well-meaning family and friends around her give advice that makes her feel pressured and question whether she's doing what's right. But she comes back to all the things you've said - about him gaining weight consistently and all of that. So just keep reassuring yourself and having faith in yourself. Of course, it doesn't help the annoyingness of the MIL, but it's nice to know that you're not the only one who feels that way.
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