Ugh, that would drive me crazy. It's not ungrateful to expect a guest in your home to not rearrange all your stuff without asking. It's more than a tad presumptuous on her part, particularly since you've already asked her not to on previous occasions.
I've seen people write in to advice columns with similar problems, and the suggestion is usually to load up the person with such a huge, complicated To Do list (all while thanking them profusely) that they won't have time for the extras. *snort* Doesn't sound like that's working too well in your case, but it's still a hilarious idea.
Oh, it's driving me absolutely bonkers, especially with the added annoyance at work, it's really the last thing I need at the moment. Heh, that might be a good idea! *ponders*
"I'm so glad you're here! The bathroom floor really needs re-grouting and all those hard-to-reach places behind the toilets could use a good going-over with a toothbrush. And do you think you could make me a lasagna before I get home? Tiramisu for dessert would also be fab. Thaaaaaaaaaaaaanks..."
Ha! I totally should! (Although, I would never ask her to cook. She is seriously the worst cook I've ever seen. My poor Honey, when i started cooking for him, gained so much weight because he thought all my cooking was amazing!)
You are completely within your rights to be pissed off about this. Folding clothes and vacuuming (two things at which I'm crap and would be over the moon if I never had to do again) is NOT the same as rearranging things to suit HER. It's not her house. This reminds me of when a flatmate's girlfriend was staying for a couple of weeks and she re-arranged all of my kitchen cupboards because "it doesn't make sense to have them that way". Gah!
"She means well" - justifiable cause for murder, IMO.
Oh, no, it's even worse that that - she lives about 10 minutes drive, so she can come and go as she likes! It's not even like there is a time-limit on her meddling! Yeah, luckily enough my Honey is very supportive of me, but unfortunately his Mum has a tendancy to do things while he's not looking or he's occupied with our little man, so by the time he realises it, she's already finished. She's very sneaky like that!
I understand completely! It's been over twenty years, but that simultaneous feeling of being really annoyed coupled with telling myself what an ungrateful lout I was ... yeah, still right there. My MIL reorganized my kitchen utensil drawers and then went on for at least half an hour about how I couldn't possibly live without a "granny fork" and she'd get me one asap. I have *never* used the damn thing. ;)
What the hell is a granny fork? Do I really want to know? Oh, yeah, that describes it completely - that feeling that you are being ungrateful but still being annoyed. I don't know how she manages to do it.
What the hell is a granny fork? Imagine a carving fork shrunk down to the size of a table fork. Or a normal table fork made heavier and with the center two tines removed. My practical response was why did I need it when I could just pull a regular fork out of the drawer. But the next time we saw her, she was all proud of having acquired one for me. :\
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I've seen people write in to advice columns with similar problems, and the suggestion is usually to load up the person with such a huge, complicated To Do list (all while thanking them profusely) that they won't have time for the extras. *snort* Doesn't sound like that's working too well in your case, but it's still a hilarious idea.
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Heh, that might be a good idea! *ponders*
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"I'm so glad you're here! The bathroom floor really needs re-grouting and all those hard-to-reach places behind the toilets could use a good going-over with a toothbrush. And do you think you could make me a lasagna before I get home? Tiramisu for dessert would also be fab. Thaaaaaaaaaaaaanks..."
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(Although, I would never ask her to cook. She is seriously the worst cook I've ever seen. My poor Honey, when i started cooking for him, gained so much weight because he thought all my cooking was amazing!)
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"She means well" - justifiable cause for murder, IMO.
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Yeah, luckily enough my Honey is very supportive of me, but unfortunately his Mum has a tendancy to do things while he's not looking or he's occupied with our little man, so by the time he realises it, she's already finished. She's very sneaky like that!
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Do I really want to know?
Oh, yeah, that describes it completely - that feeling that you are being ungrateful but still being annoyed. I don't know how she manages to do it.
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Imagine a carving fork shrunk down to the size of a table fork. Or a normal table fork made heavier and with the center two tines removed. My practical response was why did I need it when I could just pull a regular fork out of the drawer. But the next time we saw her, she was all proud of having acquired one for me. :\
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