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ornoth

Woah Woah Woah FEEEEE Lings...

May 11, 2006 20:32

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edschweppe May 12 2006, 03:18:32 UTC

"Just take a few deep breaths and feel whatever you’re feeling" is not only an unhelpful tautology, but it’s also thoroughly frustrating for someone who has no idea how to "feel what they’re feeling".
So, perhaps in that moment what you feel is ... frustrated. That's a feeling, after all.

ornoth May 12 2006, 20:20:53 UTC

Oya. I won't argue (anymore) that I don't have an emotional repertoire. It's just hard to see in the moment, and it's different than I think most of the world expects or think is "normal". But there's occasional moments of clarity. It seems to be a lifelong process, tho, getting any real insight into my own stuff.

emotions in motion time_strider_9 May 12 2006, 05:14:13 UTC

Eh, feelings & emotions are overrated, I say! What's that song, it has the line: "A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries." That about sums it up.

Re: emotions in motion ornoth May 12 2006, 20:24:17 UTC

Yeah, I've had that attitude from time to time, but it doesn't seem to serve me very well. I'm already introverted enough, so further avoiding emotions like empathy and compassion tends to really isolate me, which isn't the ideal solution. But if it works for you, I won't argue. Everybody's gotta do what's right for them. For me, finding my emotions is an important thing.

f_l_i_r_t May 12 2006, 09:42:33 UTC

Lack of social connection is ’the largest unexplored issue in men’s health’”I am struggling with this aspect currently as well, and it does emotionally shut one off not only from other but from self, at least for me and in my experiences. It is easier to just intellectualise it all away, but there is something else going on ( ... )

ornoth May 12 2006, 20:33:13 UTC

Thanks for the kind words. I think you flatter me overly, but hey that's your prerogative AFAIC.

As for finding what I'm seeking... I dunno. In one sense, I have this unassailable self-image, and don't really think I suffer or have self-esteem issues of any kind. On the other hand, I am drawn to round myself out through all this philosophical inquiry and self-analysis of stuff like my emotions. But the journey is all there is, so I'm not too goal-oriented about it.

And now I'm rambling. Perhaps I need a nap. Or a trip out to see my favorite reggae band this evening before the train to Maine in the morning...