I think you're probably right. I don't know if it's American Society that hands people a dysfunctional outlook, though. If it was, only nonconformists would be happy.
this is a fantastic post, would like to do a post about it, been seeing and thinking similar things and trying to formulate some sort of post.
it is so very true... happiness is a state of mind, not a place, an object or even an action. we are all so happy to play the victim, to always look for others to give to us, make things 'better' or whatever catch phrase is handy.
I want to be happy, want to believe, and can find happiness in something as simple as feeling the sun on my face... we can all do this, happiness is in us, we just need to unlock the cage.
Does your model have space for "never finished, but enjoying it immensely"? For instance, we're doing some minor remodeling. When this job is done there's another job on the horizon, and after that, there's another, and so on. There's also no end to learning, or self-development, or change, but that's what makes it all so fascinating. I like having unfulfilled desires. It gives me something to do.
Currently, I am learning yoga, investigating gluten-free baking, and learning Hebrew.
Does your model have space for "never finished, but enjoying it immensely"?
An interesting question, but I'd turn it right back on you: does yourmodel have room for it? If so, more power to you. Most people I see have a hard time getting to that point.
As for my model, I'm not sure. There are certainly some things I find rewarding that are never "done" as such -- DargonZine's a good example -- but there are always intermediate milestones worth observing and celebrating. An interesting question.
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I think you're probably right. I don't know if it's American Society that hands people a dysfunctional outlook, though. If it was, only nonconformists would be happy.
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it is so very true... happiness is a state of mind, not a place, an object or even an action. we are all so happy to play the victim, to always look for others to give to us, make things 'better' or whatever catch phrase is handy.
I want to be happy, want to believe, and can find happiness in something as simple as feeling the sun on my face... we can all do this, happiness is in us, we just need to unlock the cage.
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Currently, I am learning yoga, investigating gluten-free baking, and learning Hebrew.
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An interesting question, but I'd turn it right back on you: does yourmodel have room for it? If so, more power to you. Most people I see have a hard time getting to that point.
As for my model, I'm not sure. There are certainly some things I find rewarding that are never "done" as such -- DargonZine's a good example -- but there are always intermediate milestones worth observing and celebrating. An interesting question.
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*laughing*
Oh, my! yes... But of course!
(and no, I'm not making fun of you... I'm just finding you amusing)
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