Okay, so FWB is always something I've thought would be intensely emotionally difficult. I do get what you are saying - you have every right to know who else he's participating in after school activities with, even if only for the sake of your own health and safety. I think you can ask him to only play after school with you - but then doesn't that extend the relationship beyond casual FWB?
I guess it's a fine line, isn't it? We have talked about it since I posted originally, and we are exclusive as far asa after school activities, and neither of us are dating anyone else. We talk everyday, multiple times a day. I think maybe my best option is to just not think about it too much, but I always dwell on relationships... I should work on that.
You're so lucky you're married and you don't have to ask such questions. :-/
Would you rather have an actual boyfriend, or are you looking to join the "dating" scene? That holds your answer right there. If you have feelings (whether you really REALLY care, or have feelings of jealousy) for the friend you have 'benefits' with... you have many options
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Wow, that was really great insight Katherine!! Thanks a ton! Now I'm really thinking what do I want from this? In all honesty, I have never dated anyone like this friend before, so it's unfamiliar to me, which is what could have me hesitating, but ultimately, he really is someone I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. I have so much fun when I am with him, or just talking to him, let alone the "extracurricular activities." I feel truly happy around him, and I think this could be my first chance at a healthy relationship, if we ever get to that point.
He is about 80 miles away at school right now, and will be moving back to my area in August or September, so I think in the meantime I will go with the flow, and see what happens when he moves back. Maybe between now and then I will start dating... who knows.
Thanks again for the advice. It's really solid and heartfelt, I definitely appreciate it more than you know! :-D
Just now seeing your post! ( I rarely check this thing...) Any ways.... FWB.....
I just got over one myself. I thought it would maybe turn into something.....obviously he didn't. I've come to the conclusion that it's not worth my time, effort, and even money to be around someone that after a few months hasn't brought up anything about a 'relationship.' In meeting any guy now I take it slow....slow....slow. I don't want to become too emotionally attached if nothing is going to come out of it. Trying your best to stay clear of these situations is key, although it is always nice to have someone around. That's my two cents.
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You're so lucky you're married and you don't have to ask such questions. :-/
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He is about 80 miles away at school right now, and will be moving back to my area in August or September, so I think in the meantime I will go with the flow, and see what happens when he moves back. Maybe between now and then I will start dating... who knows.
Thanks again for the advice. It's really solid and heartfelt, I definitely appreciate it more than you know! :-D
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I just got over one myself. I thought it would maybe turn into something.....obviously he didn't. I've come to the conclusion that it's not worth my time, effort, and even money to be around someone that after a few months hasn't brought up anything about a 'relationship.' In meeting any guy now I take it slow....slow....slow. I don't want to become too emotionally attached if nothing is going to come out of it. Trying your best to stay clear of these situations is key, although it is always nice to have someone around. That's my two cents.
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