Comments | organize: hi!!! im new

mercydelerium in organize

hi!!! im new

Feb 04, 2006 10:55

aand im in desperate need of assistance ( Read more... )

Comments 12

itsjustkelly February 4 2006, 17:42:21 UTC

Oh gosh, I feel your pain. I haven't kicked the problem yet, but one thing that helps for me is to force myself to work on cleaning up just a little bit each day, just in one room. You'd be surprised what a difference even 15 minutes after supper can make for your bedroom, or kitchen, or whatever.

Ooh, we should totally start a support group. Like a dieting community, but for slobs. :-)

ooooooh!!! mercydelerium February 4 2006, 17:53:37 UTC

do you want to!
that would be totally awesome!
but isnt that what this group is kinda supposed to be?:)

Re: ooooooh!!! itsjustkelly February 5 2006, 00:51:01 UTC

Maybe. But I feel like most of the people on here are waaaaaaaay more organized than me. :-D I'll think about it over the weekend. :-D

reebert February 4 2006, 18:30:05 UTC

I was in the same position as you. My family weren't real housekeepers either and my husbands family gawk if you have dust on a shelf. I'll tell you what has helped me ( ... )

reebert February 4 2006, 18:32:18 UTC

umm...that was supposed to be one Saturday a month for bigger jobs. ;)

ham_bone February 4 2006, 19:37:48 UTC

That is really good advice!

mercydelerium February 4 2006, 19:59:16 UTC

thank you so much!
i really like flylady!
and i am very cluttery, not dirty.....:)

darcymcgowan February 4 2006, 19:42:39 UTC

www.flylady.net

you will love her!!!

babysteps

mercydelerium February 4 2006, 20:00:04 UTC

thank you so much!
i really like the site.....
i hate babysteps though....it makes me feel like im not doing anything....

Babysteps traceroo February 5 2006, 14:54:19 UTC

Perhaps, but there's no inspiration for feeling like you're not doing anything... like not doing anything! If babysteps get you on the right track, they're the way to go.

Traceroo

helenatroy February 17 2006, 17:41:09 UTC

Hello - I am also really struggling with this. What I am discovering is that it is the very feeling that with babysteps we are not doing anything - it is a very effective trap. The whole job is too overwhelming, you cant get started. and the babysteps make you feel like you are not doing anything. But we didn't get messy instantly, so why should we expect to get tidy instantly? I am reading a book "Its hard to make a difference when you can't evenfind your keys". The writer overcame the same thing - chaos everywhere. Early in the book she said something that really stuck with me "I will remind you often that this is a journey of small changes"

Keep us posted about how it goes.

Four Ds traceroo February 5 2006, 14:53:24 UTC

You may get frustrated with projects halfway through precisely because you look at the whole not the parts. Keeping things tidy and organized is all about dividing it into little parts. Make yourself an "HQ" and work outward from there. I suggest starting with your comfort place in the house, wherever that may be. For me, it's the bathroom. If my bathroom is tidy, organized, and pretty, when I'm getting ready for work in the morning, I feel better. That's always where I start.

Then apply the Four Ds in every task:

Discard
Delegate
Deadline
Deal With It Now

When I feel overwhelmed by a big project, I find this system helpful. Just make 4 passes - and they don't have to be at the same time:

Discard - What can you get rid of, right off the bat?

Delegate - What belongs to your husband? Can you set those items aside for him, or enlist his help to address them?

Deadline - If you can't deal with this now, when will you? "Sometime" is not good enough, it must be specific - and you must have a reminder system. "This Saturday," or "Over ( ... )