Women's 'sex strike' ends fighting in Mindanao villages

[nemi_chan]

MANILA, Philippines - Women ended armed clashes in 2 Mindanao
villages by not having sex with their husbands unless the men laid down
their weapons, according to the United Nations High Commissioner for
Refugees (UNHCR).

The success of the "sex strike" allowed families to start rebuilding their communities, the UN's refugee agency said.

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[makemerun]

It's great that these women had a way to take charge of their situation and restore peace.

It is depressing that the only way that they had was through being the "gatekeepers of sex" as fucking always.

[rock_bottom]

as fucking always

that was my feeling. As pointed out in the Lysistrata comments above.

[maynardsong]

MTE

[chantalzola]

Good point.

[one_hoopy_frood]

Yeah, I don't know what part of "stop killing each other or you can't fuck us because we hold no other power" is empowering for women or restores one's faith in men.

[maynardsong]

Ditto. More "women as gatekeepers of sex" stuff doesn't restore my faith in anyone or anything, to be quite frank.

[bowtomecha]

I get the impression that its more than just the withholding of sex, its also the withholding of the marriage relationship and the income that's brought in. I think the scope is more than just sex and I think these women are empowered for their important financial and familial positions and its a shame for people to narrow it down to no more nookie. I don't think these are awful men, just misguided men that are sane enough to realize that overall they risked losing their relationships at home and overextended themselves in their squabbles too much to notice that their wives are really the ones supporting the families and that by spending their time fighting, the men are missed as companions but not so much as providers. For women in that part of the Philippines to find such a peaceful, effective and empowering solution to this issue, it's incredibly amazing.

I loved the look on the husband's face as he got totally owned by his wife's comment of helping others after his comment of wanting another wife. hahahaha.

[mswyrr]

Good point. I think the news people were perhaps emphasizing the sex because it's assumed that "sex sells" in media and/or playing that up because of the Lysistrata connection. In either case, there's an element of Orientalism at work? There's the question of who has the power/technology/access to tell the story of the Mindanao villages and how they shape the story.

[mswyrr]

Speaking of narratives & perspective, a while ago I found a site where social media/news comments on events were translated into multiple languages so people who didn't speak a particular language could get a glimpse of opinion from a POV that would be inaccessible to them ordinarily. I'm thinking of looking this story up on it, but I seem to have lost the link. Anyone here know the site I'm talking about?

[serendipity_15]

I'm trying to see if I can find a video that has more about this online, they were speaking Filipino instead of a local dialect so if another, more informative, video surfaces with them speaking Filipino perhaps I can get more of the story.

[homasse]

And oh my god their expressions when he says he wants a second wife and she says what she wants!

LOL, I bet he felt like a total ass after she said when she wanted. XD

[azetburcaptain]

Fierce women, tbh. It's sad that it had to come to this, but... you do what you gotta do.