I was fooled for years by someone online who created a fake persona as a doctor. D:
It was all pretty terrible.
And hearing there are more people like her out there makes me not want to post online at all. But then I also remember all the real friendships with real people that i have made, who don't lie online, but instead use the opportunity to be more themselves.
Having seen my mother do that early, before I got active online, and knowing some people in rl RPG groups who spun some wild stuff about their own lives, I've been pleasantly surprised by how many people who are real online and don't need to resort to lies. I've made some really good friends online.
We were a very close knit community online and her making up everything about her life while the rest of us were all sharing so much of our real lives with this fake person? Urgh. She was the root admin too and we had to delete everything - luckily she had no clue at all about actually being an admin in a tech sense. But yeah, it was the beginning of the end for our forum. A fair few couldn't trust again and withdrew from posting. I shared private stuff with her about medical conditions just before she was exposed, but one of the other admin was going through chemo for years and the whole time the faker had the gall to play along being a doctor and yeah... She just made up this awesome life of young Australian medical student, then doctor who saved so many people's lives, rode a motorbike, surfed etc - with the odd horrific personal tragedy throw in when an excuse was needed to explain things, such as not turning up when her online boyfriend flew to Sydney to meet her etc. (several couples in the community got married, have kids
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OMG, that's horrible. People like that playing with other people's lives. And ruin a close knit community like that. I guess fakers like that need therapy for whatever, because it isn't healthy, but I don't have sympathy for them when they ruin what's good for others with their games and betray the trust of others.
I'll say they need therapy, but for all the damage they do it's only to make them stop these sick games hurting others. I honestly don't care how they feel or what their problem is. There are many other, honest ways to get the support and attention they need.
I think if she hadn't screwed over others I might feel sad for someone like that. But yeah...
I understand wanting to escape reality, but there are ways to do that without deceiving people about being a doctor.
also I guess can't quite grasp really wanting to be seen as someone you're not because of my personal experiences of having to hide who I am IRL. Online I feel safer to be honest.
She was of age enough and presumably mentally competent enough to know a better way to have her escape from reality, no matter her issues.
I understand wanting and needed some kind of fulfillment or gaining sympathy, but to do it in a way that disregards others with such duplicity and at their expense, it's wrong.
I don't get the time and energy spent on the effort of an entirely fabricated persona. Surely there are better things to do in life such as turning that creativity to writing or art, or something. It just boggles, really.
Yeah, this faker never struck me as being a teenager, but we were "friends" for... 10 years. Wow. So yeah, even if she was at first, she would have grown up. She could at any point have just stopped.
Guh. I don't get it. 10 years of effort into maintaining this persona. All the research into what medics do at uni and hospital etc even ...
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It was all pretty terrible.
And hearing there are more people like her out there makes me not want to post online at all. But then I also remember all the real friendships with real people that i have made, who don't lie online, but instead use the opportunity to be more themselves.
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Having seen my mother do that early, before I got active online, and knowing some people in rl RPG groups who spun some wild stuff about their own lives, I've been pleasantly surprised by how many people who are real online and don't need to resort to lies. I've made some really good friends online.
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That she is in serious need of therapy is definitely the most charitable thought I can have about her as to why she did what she did. :-/
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I'll say they need therapy, but for all the damage they do it's only to make them stop these sick games hurting others. I honestly don't care how they feel or what their problem is. There are many other, honest ways to get the support and attention they need.
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I understand wanting to escape reality, but there are ways to do that without deceiving people about being a doctor.
also I guess can't quite grasp really wanting to be seen as someone you're not because of my personal experiences of having to hide who I am IRL. Online I feel safer to be honest.
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I understand wanting and needed some kind of fulfillment or gaining sympathy, but to do it in a way that disregards others with such duplicity and at their expense, it's wrong.
I don't get the time and energy spent on the effort of an entirely fabricated persona. Surely there are better things to do in life such as turning that creativity to writing or art, or something. It just boggles, really.
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Guh. I don't get it. 10 years of effort into maintaining this persona. All the research into what medics do at uni and hospital etc even ...
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That's what gets me. All that time, all that research, she could have been getting a real degree in medicine.
Completely OT, who is your icon?
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And it's Chris Pine in my icon - with beard, hehe. (cause I wrote a fanfic in which Kirk has a beard at one point, lol)
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