Comments | onascaleof1_10: Your mouth says, 'Shields up!', but your eyes say, 'A hull breach is imminent.'

onascaleof1_10

Your mouth says, 'Shields up!', but your eyes say, 'A hull breach is imminent.'

Jan 26, 2011 17:47

Well it's been a while and I think it's sad that I'm still sick, I guess I'm just going to forever be "that" sick kid. Actually since I started this a while ago I actually feel pretty much better. Moving on, I thought it would be pretty fun to talk about something really normal that everyone could relate on. And that is: Dating ( Read more... )

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the_chloroplast January 28 2011, 21:54:11 UTC

Oh GOD, the "going steady" thing. It's regional, I think; my area is more of an "if you say yes then you're exclusive" area but I know that isn't the same everywhere. I remember talking to my parents about it, and they were unaware that it was a dated concept. I like it, personally, because otherwise it's like you're locked in to an all-or-nothing thing. I dunno.

But here's what I'm getting -- you want a guy who knows what he wants, isn't afraid to stand up and say something, and is able to keep up with you. I don't think that's too much to ask. Most guys are just terrified of rejection, I think. Some girls are, too.

Dates are weird, and a lot of the time I think people start off with very stereotypical dinner/movie things because that's how it's done or whatever. And once you're more comfortable with the person, you start doing other stuff, letting the person into what you actually enjoy doing ( ... )

onascaleof1_10 January 28 2011, 23:03:27 UTC

I honestly don't understand the popularity with the whole "going steady" concept at all. If you don't date how are you expected to know if you even like the person? I guess I do want a guy who's confident enough in himself to actually ask me out. I could ask them out but then how do I know he's confident right away...I don't.

I must admit I haven't actually thought about the words "will you go out with me" and how they might actually be the problem. I too think that I'd be more likely to go out with someone if they asked in a specific way that doesn't imply too much of a commitment.

Plus I don't want to ask a guy out because I have a bad habit of dating overly sensitive guys and end up hurting their feelings because I'm not overly sensitive and I don't like sensitive guys all that much

the_chloroplast January 30 2011, 21:09:39 UTC

Exactly! And then you can't compare guys without hurting their feelings and "cheating" and it's all so stupid, so what's wrong with the old way of doing things? I actually had this problem; Boy 1 asked me out on Friday, Boy 2 asked me to the movies later that evening, and I'd already said yes to Boy 1 because I kind of liked him, and then I had to explain to my parents that no, people don't date two people at once anymore even though they TOTALLY SHOULD. And it was awkward. ><

...I dunno, find a guy who looks confident and ask him out at random, maybe? Or just wait. Maybe the perfect guy will randomly turn up next week!

onascaleof1_10 January 31 2011, 02:41:15 UTC

I don't see why you couldn't have gone on a date with boy 1 and then make plans with boy 2 for the following week. I bet if we tried we could bring the multiple dating back! That last phrase sounded like the ending of a horoscope. If I do meet the perfect guy next week, I hope he has Big Bang Theory and Doctor Who on tivo because I keep missing the reruns on tv xD

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