Allison Holker to release memoir

[silverstarry]

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[vibeology_e]

She is made of tougher stuff that I am. She has navigated these past few years with grace.

I know there has been some drama with Stephen’s family and it breaks my heart for her and them because they all must still be in some real pain.

[silverstarry]

One of the issues I saw mentioned is his family saying that she moved on too quickly after his death. The same thing happened when my dad's sister died and her husband remarried a year later. My dad was adamant that my aunt's husband was being disrespectful by getting married again so soon.

I was really young when it happened so I don't know the details, but I do know that if it had been up to my dad, my uncle never would have remarried. I think people need to accept that losing someone you love and grieving for them doesn't mean you will never move on.

It may sound heartless, but you can't expect someone to be miserable and mourn forever. And that doesn't just apply to being in a new relationship. Some people act like if you don't wear black forever, shun all company, etc. then you aren't honoring this other person's memory. You have a right to heal and evolve and laugh and feel joy again. It doesn't mean that you don't love the other person anymore or that you've forgotten about them.

[soul_amazinn]

I think if you meet your person you shouldn’t walk away from potential happiness because of a certain timeframe. A year might seem soon but people have to move on. It doesn’t mean you can’t still be mourning.

[katinthahat]

There's so many ways to honor the memory of a loved one.they don't have to include martyring yourself for the rest of YOUR life.

[forrealdoh]

I can't imagine what she went though after losing tWitch.

[she_can_rock]

just put this to be notified on libby!

[poor_medea]

I remember when she first came back to SYTYCD, they (Nigel especially) made a huge deal of her being this tragic figure because she had a baby out of wedlock really young. I just hated it, because she did this incredible routine and all they could talk about was how 'brave' she must be to still do dance after something like that, as if what she went through was terminal cancer and not simply having a child.

[pantless_deacon]

She and Natalie Fotopoulos had me in a chokehold.