RAYE Feels Liberated Talking About Her Body Dysmorphia

[ivn]

RAYE shared on the Capital XTRA Evening Show with Kamilla Rose that she felt 'liberated' after opening up about her body confidence issues in her new single, Genesis.

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[xtinkerbellax]

I think I have a better relationship with my body with each passing year tbh. Getting older for me has also meant being more comfortable with myself and caring less about the perceptions of others but also understanding the importance of caring for myself. I feel like I'm in the best shape of my life and feeling strong and physically capable also adds to feeling better about my body.

[anagramofbrat]

Honestly the only times I get self-critical about my body is when I have a crush on a guy other than my husband, then all I can see are the flaws. I do not have this issue crushing on ladies or NBs. It's really baffling to me.

I usually don't edit my social media. Filters make me (and everyone else, I think) look too uncanny valley. Half the time on Insta I'm purposefully doing something goofy or making a weird face specifically so I don't get self-conscious about how I look later. Exception is I will sometimes spot zap a zit or a cold sore or something, but thankfully I rarely get either.

[floatinglately]

huh, i’m kinda the opposite in that i had sort of more or less made peace with my body and then my early 30s bisexual awakening + convos with my (male) partner about opening up our relationship motivated by a desire to explore that side of my queerness/sexuality has like…. honestly really fucked with my head! i think on some level at some point i internalized the idea that like “men will sleep with anything, women have standards” and even though i can see how illogical that is, whenever i think about taking actionable steps within these new relationship parameters i just freeze with self-loathing and cannot conceive of any woman finding me attractive, ever.

sorry for the novel i was just very struck by seeing someone else have gender-differentiated body issues!!!!

[kjesta]

if it helps at all, i find queer women have a much more varied view of beauty and attractiveness. at pride i see plenty of women who are fat, short, with "unattractive" faces and figures etc, all with their wives and girlfriends and partners. (using fat etc as neutral descriptors, not pejorative.) i think being sapphic rly can help break you out of the male gaze, bc there's no males to do the gazing. butchness is considered hella attractive! all kinds of bodytypes are! don't let heteronormative ideas get to you, although it's easy for me just to say it ofc.

i hope that however things develop, that you can reorient and find comfort and happiness, because i'm sure that there's plenty of women out there who'd find you attractive! i know for sure that i regularly sneak looks at women on the train that are just stunning to me, and that would prob get a 5 at best from many men, bc they need to get their eyes checked.

[rabbitofalice]

it's the exact pose with the hand on the stomach for me, i always end up in the same position whether i'm in underwear or bikini
i think i answered the question lol

[lurkurheartout]

I have an eating disorder and no matter how recovered I am my body dysmorphia is a bitch. I still avoid pictures like the plague.

[maryjanewatson]

same

[kindpaddington]

I have always had a terrible relationship with my body. I've gained a ton of weight in the past I think 8 years or so, and on me it is very not aesthetically pleasing.gif. I think back to how deeply uncomfortable I was with my body when I was younger and weighed a lot less than I do now and wish I had felt like the hot shit I tell myself I must have been, because I am oogly now. I also haven't been taking care of my body the way it needs, so I've been taking baby steps to do so and trying to focus on how it's good and healthy for me, and not how I think it will make me look.