I hate the expectation for women - and especially women in Hollywood - to immediately get their body "back" after a baby, though even without that rapid changes can definitely trigger dysmorphia and unfamiliarity with yourself. Like others have said I hope she is surrounded by the support and acceptance she needs.
The focus is also on the way you look, not how your body works. People were jealous I almost immediately dropped the baby weight but it was over a year before I could walk without pain.
my wife is pregnant rn and im scaaaared she's gonna struggle after birth. especially with the body thing (she was a cross fitter until she had to stop in her pregnancy). im gonna take on as much load as i can!!!
Just ensure that your wife knows you're there for her.
My partner felt a bit useless as I was breastfeeding and he wanted to share the work. Instead, he made sure dinner was made, bottles were prepped, the house was clean. It was one less thing to think about and was so helpful.
Her hormones will be all over so as long as your understanding and accepting I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
And she shouldn't worry about her body, although I know its hard. It can take around 2 years for some and 2 months for others. I breastfed and ended up losing more weight than before I was pregnant because of the calories burned and hating dairy products. But we're all different. Her body is doing an amazing thing bringing a baby to the world! Best of luck!
as someone in the thick of it - please help her with night wake-ups. fuck the house tbh. cleaning will always be there. give her the luxury of uninterrupted sleep.
when our baby was a newborn, her crib was on my side of the bedroom but for night feeding my partner would get out of the bed, pick up the baby, and bringing them to me and it meant so much to me.
"I feel like a completely different person when I look in the mirror, I just feel like I’m in a whole new body. I don’t know who I am.”
I read somewhere that the changes to the body after giving birth can be more shocking to young first time mothers than to older first time mothers, because if you're older, you already saw your body go through at least some changes with time, but if you're an able bodied 20 year old, you haven't really, except for puberty, which is quite different. Idk if that's true, but I could definitely see that happening to a degree.
Sending love to all the mums out there. I'm not a parent, but I would imagine it's so hard going through such physical, emotional, and environmental changes so quickly.
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I hope Halle has beaucoup support for her and lil Halo rn.
*lmao I can't believe I named the wrong sister when her name is in the title
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My partner felt a bit useless as I was breastfeeding and he wanted to share the work. Instead, he made sure dinner was made, bottles were prepped, the house was clean. It was one less thing to think about and was so helpful.
Her hormones will be all over so as long as your understanding and accepting I'm sure she'll appreciate it.
And she shouldn't worry about her body, although I know its hard. It can take around 2 years for some and 2 months for others. I breastfed and ended up losing more weight than before I was pregnant because of the calories burned and hating dairy products. But we're all different. Her body is doing an amazing thing bringing a baby to the world! Best of luck!
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when our baby was a newborn, her crib was on my side of the bedroom but for night feeding my partner would get out of the bed, pick up the baby, and bringing them to me and it meant so much to me.
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I read somewhere that the changes to the body after giving birth can be more shocking to young first time mothers than to older first time mothers, because if you're older, you already saw your body go through at least some changes with time, but if you're an able bodied 20 year old, you haven't really, except for puberty, which is quite different. Idk if that's true, but I could definitely see that happening to a degree.
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