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[oceansolitude]

So, Jay ran into someone that I have been thinking about a lot lately. I didn't go out last night because I have to get up too early for work and I was super tired. I have been having the feeling I am going to run into her somewhere random for the past few weeks, but Jay did instead. I miss her. She was my best friend, but a lot of stuff

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[dalyax]

Wow, very hectic.

As for co-worker, I'm Muslim, and abuse is pretty known in my family.. My family does arranged marriages and women aren't really permitted to leave the household without being married..

You are right, it does say that in the Qu'ran but families these days raise women and men still differently. It's very difficult when you are 100% different from your family (in my case). I don't wear the scarf, and my parents are very modern, but when it comes to family, marriage, sex, that crap is beyond strict. :D

[oceansolitude]

Yeah, his was an arranged marriage, and it is one of the unhappy ones. I know that for many it works well, as long as the parents are looking out for the interests of the children, but if it is about family loyalty or money it seems to be more problematic.
I would have been just as angry if he had been Christian and I respected him for his good "christianness," if he beat his wife. It was more about hypocrisy than his religion.
Is it hard for you with your family?

[dalyax]

Yes very, Majority of the women that are married to my uncles have NO EDUCATION. They're like cows, and these women don't have shame. They LOVE being "gold-diggers."

it causes a lot of pointless drama, and it's usually the men that are stupid (abusive, or financial troubles). Most of the drama is regarding money. I say "Shut the hell up, and be happy for what you HAVE!"

I seriously could NEVER imagine myself marrying a stranger. these guys object to the smallest mistakes. Life if I missed a prayer, oh my god. And some of these men force you to wear the scarf after you marry them. So then if I don't wear it, this guy can flip.

The marriages occur usually in ages 16-28. It's not something you are "arranged" with upon birth. it's a random process :D
Yes I know, at 16. And these women don't question their life.

[oceansolitude]

"I say 'Shut the hell up, and be happy for what you HAVE!'" I like this attitude you have. Until my boyfriend's father died earlier this month, we were the only couple I know with both sets of parents still married to each other. Marriage isn't all peaches and ice-cream, but it shouldn't be abusive either. My boyfriend and I aren't at all "traditional" in any sense, including our religions, but we value commitment and getting through the hard stuff to reach the joyous parts of our relationship.