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[nyecamden]

Reading Judith Halberstam's 'Female Masculinity' is leading me to question aspects of my gender and sexual practices. I'm not going to go all pornographic here, but I will be talking about what I do in bed. I don't want to put it in my sex-filter; it is more a gender questioning thing. Talking about sex in openly is something I have been much more

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[bethanthepurple]

I like what you write, it makes sense.
I don't define as stone butch in any strict way, but I can understand people who want to "do" and not get "done". Quite often I'm a lot more confortable being the active partner - I just can't relax into knowing the other person is making all that effort with me just lying (sitting/crouching/kneeling/standing...) there. Also, I *like* peoples' parts. I LOVE vagina. I like how it is and it's beauty and EVERYTHING about it. Sex as a passive partner is nice, but without being able to reciprocate it lacks conclusion.

I guess I just get off on other people getting off. If I find out after sex that the other person hasn't enjoyed it (or won't afterwards in the privacy of their own home (bed/sofa/bath/toilet/public convenience/back alley...) I really do just feel rotten. It defeats the whole point.

So, erm... Sex, eh? Bab, innit? ;)

[aster13]

(i'm not going to write much as this is not a filtered thread buuut...)

I think i might be more of a pillow princess than you guys *wink* Volunteers?! *cheeky grin*

[soquili_gitli]

The most odd thing to me, honestly, is that I have absolutely no real knowledge of lesbian culture whatsoever. I know butch to stand for "Masculine" and Femme to read directly. But the degrees and nuances are something I have no clue about.

I might very well have to learn a thing or two, given that I might find myself in a lesbian area someday and have to be able to determine such things.

Thank you for such a wonderful post.