Info post

[nyecamden]

Gender neutraity:

• the singular 'they'. Eg, 'I went out with Nye the other day, they got a bit anxious.' Disliked by grammar traditionalists.
• using a person's name a lot. Eg. 'Do you know Nye? I've known Nye for a little while. Nye's over there with the green hair.'
• lover/partner/significant other vs boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife

I prefer

Comments

[lthr_wolf]

Good post ...thanx.

Wolf ...queer tomboy femme (bio)female . ~G~

[boyzici]

I agree about it ebing a good post

[nyecamden]

I'm amused that people find it a good post, it was just something I cobbled together really quickly so I could tell a new lover how I want to be treated without having to ask him directly.

It's often unacceptable to ask if a person is trans, and what flavour of trans they are, so it's good that you have erred on the side of caution. Most trans people that I know want to be seen as the gender they identify themselves as, but some ID more strongly as trans in itself, some have a completely different way of doing things and confuse me a bit. That's where the singular they really works (other gender-neutral pronouns haven't really caught on that well outside of academic-centred genderqueerish spaces), one can use it about anyone.

Most society is so bloody obsessed with genitals in relation to gender. *shakes society* I do the she-ing of people who are temporarily in a female role too, I didn't realise that people don't do that.

[boyzici]

I think it was mainly good cos it was an untapped subject. As you say, trans people dont like their trans status being brought into the conversation and so it is unusual to see a post about such a thing.