Avoiding it can be useful, as a tool. To prevent yourself from feeling. But when you do feel, when you do let it out, does the remaining pain grow less, or greater after the outburst?
The pain doesn't grow any less when I let out my feelings, but they are more easy to manage. I don't have to overeat or binge-drink or have sex with strangers or whatever in order to stop the feelings. The feelings (in general) are a lot less scary when I allow myself to have them; otherwise I let fear of feelings rule me, and that messes up a lot of things.
The pain of adoption will always be with me. It changes with time, but that brings with it new challenges.
Giving up the memory, letting go completely of the pain, well, I'd never even think to advise that. It would be like trying to stuff an elephant under a throw rug, just plain ridiculous.
Change is inevitable, as is challenge. It is through these things that we become who we are meant to be.
Moving forward is a very very good thing. And I'm happy to hear it.
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Avoiding it can be useful, as a tool. To prevent yourself from feeling. But when you do feel, when you do let it out, does the remaining pain grow less, or greater after the outburst?
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The pain of adoption will always be with me. It changes with time, but that brings with it new challenges.
I'm moving forward, and that is a good thing.
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Change is inevitable, as is challenge. It is through these things that we become who we are meant to be.
Moving forward is a very very good thing. And I'm happy to hear it.
*hugs*
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