Meeting a Mermaid (my first brush with polyamory)
November 30th 2012, Meeting a Mermaid
.I met Mermaid online. I wrote her a letter and we wrote back and forth extensively daily for five days. I wrote replies that were five typed pages long (roughly).
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Mermaid and I set a date to meet up on the sixth day. Mermaid is polyamorous and has two boyfriends. One of them drove her and stayed for the date. We ate at a vegan restaurant on near my place. Mermaid and I both ordered rice-wraps and brown rice on the side. It was stuffed with carrots, potato and sweet potato and curry. It was very good. Gecko wasn't too enthusiastic about his coconut curry soup.
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Gecko drove and parked a bit up Elmwood. We walked around and went into a couple shops. Mermaid bought some arm warmers she liked. I suggested that we go back to my place and make ginger cookies.
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We drove 'home' (Gecko driving, me in the front, Mermaid in the back). I 'helped' Mermaid out of the car each time by moving the seat belt and stuff out of the way to make it easier to get out.
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I was nervous still, not sure what they wanted or expected and not knowing what vibes I was giving off. I had been super nervous walking to the cafe, and was less nervous by the time we got home, but still nervous.
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I showed them around the garden and pointed out the few things still thriving - sage, mint, arugula, broccoli leaves and parsley.
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(Up until this point it was Mermaid, Gecko and Me relating to one another. This becomes 'relevant' in my train of thought later on.)
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We went upstairs and I made introductions. Paladin and Gecko very rapidly got onto the topic of video games.
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I got a game of Taluva going (a fantastic board game revolving around building a three-dimensional island). I was confident before the game began that Mermaid and Gecko would catch on easily. Apparently I explained too quickly, since neither of them really caught the rules until I'd explained about three times. I might be worse at teaching board games than I thought.
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(So here we have the four of us relating together.)
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I showed Mermaid how I make ginger cookies. (Rolled oats blended with raisins, fresh ginger and cinnamon.) She, Paladin and I ate a bunch of ginger cookie and Gecko had a nibble and said it was alright. Paladin said he was still hungry and made brown rice.
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I then suggested Scruples and we played that (an old game that isn't nearly as good as its newer counterpart, A Voice of Conscience). A great game for getting to know new people, indeed. Mermaid and Gecko got a feel for how scrupulous Paladin is, and about my more "flexible" morals. I learned about Mermaid being somewhat emotion-centered and about Gecko being fairly centered in the physical realm.
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At some point Gecko and I established that we were both familiar with the concept of there not being time or space as we know them. I decided Gecko was fairly cute, if not what I'd think of as 'hot'.
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I noticed that Mermaid was shorter than I but certainly much more muscular.
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Mermaid and Gecko both expressed the thought of being tired. She and I sat on my bed talking, which after a couple hours turned into cuddling and talking. Gecko and Paladin 'retreated' into Paladin's area and talked on and on and on about video games. Four to five hours passed.
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(Here Gecko relates to Paladin. I related to Mermaid. At this point we'd covered three different ways for the group to experience their relationships.)
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We joined back together as a group at nearly midnight. Again the idea of Mermaid and Gecko leaving was brought up... But it was short lived.
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Mermaid gestured for Gecko to come join us on the bed. I gestured to indicate to Paladin that he should come too. They both looked slightly unsure for a moment or three. Much shifting of blankets, pillows and bodies ensued, followed by us all realizing that sleeping fully dressed wouldn't work. Mermaid and I were quick to lose everything but our underwear (heck, why not, right?).
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Paladin changed into PJs without a shirt, but Gecko opted to stay mostly dressed. Gecko was exhausted and fell asleep quickly.
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Gecko slept on one side, Paladin on the other side. I had Paladin at my back and Mermaid at my front, with Gecko on the other side of Mermaid. I became entranced with Mermaid's body, touching her hips, her arms, her belly, her throat, her face, her breasts. It was a tight squeeze on this double bed. (Double bed, not quadruple bed!)
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I put Paladin's hand on Mermaid's breast. I had already asked Mermaid earlier if she found Paladin attractive. Her answer wasn't enthusiastic, but neither did it show any reluctance or disgust or dismay. She remarked that he was cute enough or alright or something. I mostly noticed her tone and facial expression in response. I was falling for her already, quite hard.
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Mermaid touched Paladin a bit over me. I touched Gecko a bit, my arm reaching over Mermaid, despite him being essentially asleep.
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(In this portion of our encounter it is Paladin and I with Mermaid, exploring that dynamic of how we relate to one another, although this portion was essentially silent and mostly consisted of touching.)
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We tried to sleep after a while, never losing underwear at any point, mutually stopping at just a certain point. I think we could have moved it along further and faster if any one of us had pushed, but none of us did.
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Mermaid wasn't sleeping so she talked to Paladin and I after a bit, although I eventually let my eyes close and said little.
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When I seriously started trying to sleep Gecko began to snore. I massaged his nose a bit, trying to get him to stop. He woke up, of course, and I explained a little. He seemed to think his snoring was un-helpable and ended up falling back asleep. I had a hard time sleeping for a long time, being woken by Paladin or Gecko in turns - Paladin from his movements and Gecko from his snoring. I did eventually sleep, but it seemed to happen after Paladin left the bed. I think he might have slept in his chair.
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When I woke the sun was out and it was just Gecko and I in bed. Mermaid was in Paladin's lap, talking, on Paladin's chair.
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(Here we now do the opposite genders relating instead of the same genders as we had last night. Paladin with Mermaid and I with Gecko.)
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I stayed on the bed, curled up close to Gecko and began to touch him. I touched his cock through his long-johns, excited about being with another man in my bed with Paladin close by with a woman on his lap. The situation itself was so titillating that I couldn't even focus on enjoying the feel of a strange cock through the fabric and the touch of Gecko's hands on my vagina through my panties. Again, the no-hands-on-bare-genitals unspoken rule was not broken. I was horny though, as I tend to wake up horny, and I almost whipped out a condom to have sex with Gecko.
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Instead, I started giggling and Gecko asked me what I was giggling about. I told him that I thought it was hilarious that Paladin couldn't think with his cock. I said, "If I were Paladin I'd be having sex with Mermaid right now." Gecko laughed and we got started on our own conversation.
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Gecko recently read 1984 and is very aware of the slave-system of society. He's currently reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand.
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Eventually that turned back into the four of us hanging out all together.
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Since I had some obligations relating to work at 1:00pm, they left at 12:45pm to go out to eat, the three of them.
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(Completing the circle, the three of them interacting without me. Exploring all aspects of our new possible dynamics in just 24 hours.)
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It's going on three-thirty and they're still out. They're going to the grocery store after eating and Paladin called me a while ago and said they weren't at the grocery store yet - two hours after the time they'd left. I feel a little bit left out at the moment, but at the same time I think I needed a little rest.
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I'm excited.
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I've found two more people for my future sustainable community, and possibly begun my polyamorous family. Mermaid said she wasn't ready for a baby yet because she believes it takes a village to raise a baby. I'm happy about her saying that. I feel that way too.