Comments | nosmallbeer: At what point are two people "estranged"?

nosmallbeer

At what point are two people "estranged"?

Oct 17, 2005 16:57

I realized today that I don't know where my mother lives. I mean, I know what city, and I could open my address book and find the address...but if I wanted to spontaneously drive down there and surprise her...I couldn't just confidently do so without the help of mapquest. This is my motherShe had to sell the family home shortly after I moved to ( Read more... )

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porksound October 17 2005, 17:06:18 UTC

Are you lamenting?

or simply tallying the experience?

it's hard to tell... I wonder if you are as far removed from your feelings about her as you are from her home...

i only wonder because this SEEMS clinical, and yet it FEELS pained.

p

nosmallbeer October 18 2005, 13:22:42 UTC

I think it's clear that you're right, and that was the point. There is a lament to it, certainly, laced with a kind of staggering disbelief ( ... )

porksound October 19 2005, 11:31:38 UTC

I wasn't asking for the "pain part" ... I was wondering if you knew about it.

I'm with you a bit on the family thing... i do not see the sense in bashing myself into the wall of my family simply because someone spray painted "family" on it.

My father thinks I'm a terrible bastard, because I told him the truth about how I feel... my mother seems to respect me, but she avoids me as well, because I "make her uncomfortable with my honesty"

I just don't have time for the reactions the 6 year old I was still has to these people.

I feel ya...

I told my dad recently that I would prefer no relationship at all to the infrequent reminders of the mess we have together... not that I'm avoiding those feelings so much as I'm not sure they're valid so much as I think i feel like I should feel them...

p