Comments | niicelaady: Another weighty post

niicelaady

Another weighty post

Oct 28, 2010 19:50

So I'm gonna stay a fatty all of my life.
But some people think that fatties are nice!-- Melanie, "Animal Crackers ( Read more... )

weight, politics, self

Comments 10

blueheronz October 28 2010, 23:57:16 UTC

I've seen your picture on FB. I think you look great. Body image, though. No matter your age, it's hard to feel comfortable in your own body. There are plenty of "big" women who I find absolutely gorgeous. A lot of times for me it's not a matter of size in a person, it's ... do they have a spirit that lights up a room? Are they practicing mindfulness -- living their lives with impunity? Are they interested in things outside of themselves? All of these make people attractive to me. I respond to a person's energy more than anything.

niicelaady October 29 2010, 11:44:27 UTC

Thanks. I don't think I look great... or even good, and I don't know why, because I can look at other women my age and my size and think they're gorgeous. But my crappy self-image has about a 20-year head start on my weight issues.

doodlebugboodle October 29 2010, 05:34:04 UTC

Yes!!! I've vented my spleen on the Marie Claire hit piece elsewhere so I will comment on the Lolita book.

I am so glad that someone is saying this. I'm tired of people saying if you think it is sexual that a little girl is dressed like a lady of the night then you have a dirty mind. No sorry. When I see you 12 year old humping a stripper's pole in fishnets and little else I die a little. Teaching a six year old to bump and grind as part of a dance routine? Really not much better.

So many little girls are taught that their value lies in their physical beauty or how provocative they can make themselves and this does nothing to develop the true character and self-worth of a little girl. In fact I would argue that it robs them of it. As for Barbie being allowed to have fat, no anyone at that body fat % is packing silicone or sailene.

niicelaady October 29 2010, 11:38:25 UTC

I'd love to read what you wrote on the MC post. Got link?

fyregoddess875 October 29 2010, 13:15:02 UTC

You might want to check out the first of the responses to Maura Kelly's piece that Marie Claire has published: http://www.marieclaire.com/world-reports/opinion/fat-people-exist

It's an excellent counterpoint to Maura Kelly's piece and I think it's an excellent place for them to start attempting to repair the damage that the original op/ed did - especially if they keep it up and actually do a series of counterpoints.

niicelaady October 29 2010, 13:43:23 UTC

I did read that. It was well done. Unfortunately, my appreciation for the piece was overshadowed by my disgust at some of the comments. "anyone who wears a size 14 (unless she is 6'7) has too high of a BMI. you may not feel unhealthy yet, but wait a few years- hypertension and heart disease"? Puhleeze.

I'd KILL to be a 14 again!

chocolate_frapp October 29 2010, 16:25:59 UTC

I've noticed a lot of women who are touted by the media as being sex symbols are not only hyper skinny but very young looking. I was so bored in my doctor's waiting room yesterday I actually picked up a fashion magazine. Does one magazine really need six articles with Jessica Alba in them?

rageb4beauty October 29 2010, 17:26:44 UTC

I've been fat most of my life, but I have serious doubts that there's anywhere near as dramatic a difference between being fat and being skinny as mass media wants us to believe, particularly since there are so many "happy mediums." It's not like it's black or white, particularly with the inconsistencies in sizing and debate about what constitutes "healthy."

I declare the entire thing hyperbole. Let's go get a cupcake.