Seems like a fitting sequel to my last post...

[nightshade1972]

The bitch has some nerve, I'll give her that.  Either she knows what the Fraternal Unit did, and doesn't care, or she doesn't know but still thinks there's a snowball's chance in hell I'd want to friend her

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[hermioneann]

"Family are the people you choose, and who choose you."

I've recently had a rather abrupt reminder of that myself.

[nightshade1972]

Oh? Do tell, if you're so inclined...

[hermioneann]

It's a very long story, but apparently I just wound up with second dibs on the shower, so

[nightshade1972]

Okay, I took care of the friend thing (thought I had before. Guess not. My bad!).

That's weird about your cousins snubbing you like that. Did they ever explain why?

[fallconsmate]

Ya know, sweetie, that's a HUGE reason I don't facebook. My family. (and yep, my brother and his cow are at the 'rents house this week, and I am conspiculously absent. *G*) and while I have mentioned livejournal, I'm on private settings only. I like my SIL, with all her self-admitted lying issues, a lot better than most of my family. *hugs* Their loss, chickie. Cause you're a really good person.

[nightshade1972]

The only reason I started doing Facebook is that, after I'd found/started talking to one of my gradeschool friends through my gradeschool's website, he told me that most of our class were on Facebook, not LJ. He was correct. I did find quite a few of my gradeschool classmates on FB, and I've mutually friended most of them.

From the beginning, the Maternal Unit was suggested to me by FB as "someone you might know/like". I've ignored those prompts, and kept my fingers crossed that *she* wouldn't find *me*. No such luck, apparently. However, I did go back and tweak my security settings so that I no longer receive any communication from either the Maternal or Fraternal Unit.

[fallconsmate]

good idea. you dont need that kind of aggrivation in your life, anyway.

[pickleboot]

ugh, i do not get families sometimes. my brother informed my parents that it was him or us when it comes to my mom's surprise retirement party. my dad and i are baffled as to why this is going on, and my *wonderful* brother keeps on saying i know exactly what i did and all i need to do is acknowledge it and apologize. if i knew what the fuck i did at this point i would not apologize and i want to tell him to stick it.

but, he won't even allow emails through, so it's useless.

[itskoi]

You can block them under privacy settings. But I hope you hit "do not know this person" under the friend request. ;-)

That's mainly why I have two facebooks. One with my real name for people I didn't want on, but only realized later and it would be too much fuss ot take them off, and the other for everyone I WANT on facebook who I can actually be HONEST about my life with.

To one of your posters- If someone, by the way, says you need to aapologize, wont' say why, and then won't accept the apology. . .it's THEIR issue. Not yours. Just like people who usually say how selfish you are being are in fact the selfish ones.

[nightshade1972]

Yeah, I already blocked both of them. I can't tell you what a relief it is to know that I'll never have to suffer through another "holiday" with any of my so-called "family" ever again. My gradeschool best friend not only didn't seem surprised, but also remarked that she'd "always thought there was something a little off" about the Maternal Unit. Good to know it's not "just me" who sees that.

:-D

[itskoi]

When I was still in my teens, living at home I had a psychologist suggest I should read something like "Toxic Family" (most probably know of the book). I didn't get why until a few years ago. ;-) It really isn't US, it is THEM.

[nightshade1972]

When I was in gradeschool, back in kindergarten there was one day when I mistakenly thought I was supposed to be picked up not by my best friend's mother, but by the Maternal Unit. I ended up staying after school for almost an hour and a half, until one of the kindergarten teachers took pity on me and drove me home. The Maternal Unit openly admitted (back then!) it had never occurred to her to call either my best friend's mother, or the school, because she "just assumed" I was playing with my best friend. I remember thinking even back then, at the tender age of five, how strange it was that she wasn't worried enough--after an hour and a half--to even *try* to call someone. If it were *my* kid, after an hour and a half without a word, I'd be tearing my hair out looking for them! That was pretty much "the beginning of the end".

[poeticzi]

When I told my friend I didn't really want a relationship with my family and I'm keeping my distance, she also told me that she always thought they were all "a little off" and wasn't surprised at all. In fact, absolutely no one has been surprised. One friend even encourages it.

[nightshade1972]

:-D