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[nhakblove]

Y'know it's funny... as much as I bitch about disliking children and not wanting any of my own, I have to admit that there are some children I like. Mostly they're the children I only see on such a sporadic basis that our relationship can only be one of playtime and hugs. And I do realize that it's unfair to children worldwide to be judging them

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[thatsjustwrong]

Your optimism encourages me. There is so often these days that I'm quite sure I'm out of time when it comes to husband/kids/famiy activities. Thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone. And that it's not too late.

[nhakblove]

Honey it's only too late when you're dead. You're just being impatient. When the time is right, things will fall into place, and not one minute before then is it going to happen, so you need to just sit back, relax, and watch the fun unfold. And maybe find yourself a slightly less creepy looking, alien baby icon to use.

[mooinabox]

I don't think someone who wants to have kids is insane. I mean, there has to be a reason so many people do it, right? Really, child-rearing creates a challenge and a relationship that is unlike anything else one can experience in life, and although I'm not ready for it yet, I can honestly say I don't think I will feel complete without it, and I think that goes for a lot of people. The devil-spawn children of which you speak are generally parented by people who did not quite live up to that challenge (namely in the area of discipline).

[nhakblove]

I only think people are insane to want children because most the people I know who have children seem to have way more work than reward coming out of the deal. They'll do anything for their kids, but they also counsel me all the time to wait as long as possible before having any of my own. They almost have an it's-not-worth-it tone. Doesn't exactly boost my confidence about whether baby-making is a good idea.

[mooinabox]

Yeah, my own mom recently told me to wait a few years, and she loooves kids. But at the same time, I want to parent while I have the energy, so it's tricky to find a balance.

Maybe it's different for your acquaintances, but with the people I know who have kids, I tend to pick up on that doting look or tone where you can tell they think it's totally worth it, with every fiber of their being, regardless of how much they may grumble about it. I think that's what makes me want to have kids the most; it almost makes me jealous.

That being said, SO not ready yet. I'm still too selfish with my professional life, my disposable income, and my free time to give them up. I suspect many problems arise when people are at that stage but decide to have kids anyway (or end up with an unplanned pregnancy).

[mooinabox]

I should probably mention I've been thinking a lot about this lately. We actually just had yet another "when should we have kids?" discussion.