Lead Sails (and a Paper Anchor)

[nf793]

Ever feel like holding on to someone, knowing they're slipping away, but don't because you don't want to be seen as needy or clingy and end up chasing them away

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[ertai]

In general, I think children are coddled too much and are not forced to deal with life. I think the whole "bullying epidemic" is overblown and attacked from the wrong way. Instead of trying to make some magical world where everyone respects each other, children should be taught that things aren't always amazing and a bully isn't the end of the world. I guess instead of eliminating bullying, the focus should be on dealing with bullying.

[nf793]

I really agree. It will never go away completely, because in a way it is in human nature to ensure survival. Sure, that's outdated, but it's still in the species. Children are taught too often to either whine to someone more powerful who can tell the bully to stop, or avoid the situation entirely. To me, that makes no sense. Have someone else make the world the way you want it, or avoid problems entirely. You can't learn coping that way, nor will that make it go away. You have to learn how to handle the situation. When kids get older and go into the work force, they won't be able to pick their coworkers or their supervisors or bosses. Your coworker is impolite? You can't just avoid them forever. Complaining to your boss is just wasting your boss's time. Heaven forbid your boss talks down to you at some point, and then what? You either learn how to cope with it and handle the situation and carry on with your life, or you quit your job and lose your income and risk your livelihood

[ertai]

Yeah, I always say that trying to stop bullying or protect against bullying just pushes the problem down the road. Because at some point, you'll encounter people that you'll need to deal with.

To illustrate this point, I remember seeing a promo on the news that talked about... "work bullies".