what's time got to do with it?

[neugotik]

I think I'm a goal-driven person; i.e. I go through the day with tasks/goals/accomplishments I want to complete, and I work from completing one to go to another. I think this is part of the reason I am constantly late - I just don't think of the world or day in terms of "what time am I supposed to be there?" Or "where am I supposed to be at this

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[skylarker]

I tend to be pretty prompt, myself. I don't know if it's a matter of thinking so much about the time, as of hating to keep people waiting - since when others keep me waiting I feel like they've discounted the importance of my own feelings. If they want me to think I don't matter that much in their lives, it sure gets the message across.

[neugotik]

see? Now that is totally not what I'm thinking or doing when I'm late

[skylarker]

I'm getting better at not taking it personally. I've learned to consider that real things can come up that prevent a person's being on time.

I guess, since I put such a high priority on being on time to meet people that it creates a stronger association between caring and timeliness in my mind.

[neugotik]

yeah - I found this great article about different reasons people are late, instead of on time - I think people who are on time work hard at it: so that it becomes important to them that other people respect them & take the same effort: but to the tardy-folks (like me) it's not effort .. er, as much as distraction!

I'll see if I can find that link - it was really helpful to me & I should review it for more motivation!!