Stuff about marriage and peer pressure

[nekosd43]

Sooo yesterday my close friend was proposed to by her long-time boyfriend.  This will be two (three if you count n4nuk4 ) friends who have gotten engaged or married in about a year.  Which is cool.  I mean it's awesome, but I have this one little problem...

"Sooo....  You're next right?  When are you and Ziggy getting married?"

Comments

[risha_moon]

I think it's smart that you're thinking marriage through before you leap into something. Most people now-a-days don't do that. Adam and I got engaged because we both wanted to. Now, whenever people find out we're engaged...or, if they already know...the question is always "When are you getting married?!??!" It's nice but it drives me insane. Adam and I aren't in a hurry. We both decided to wait until I at least graduate from UCF, which will be in 2 years. But that isn't even definite, we need to make sure that the time is right to get married (jobs, housing,...everything!? lol). Adam and I both know we love each other and we don't need to be married to prove it.

Anyway, sorry if I went off on a bit of a tangent there. I'm just glad to know that there are other people out there in the world that think these things through before doing anything. You shouldn't feel bad about it. And you shouldn't feel pressured.

[nekosd43]

I just can't understand why everyone doesn't think like this. Being in love is a wonderful thing, and being engaged or married is equally wonderful, but it's a commitment, and you shouldn't be planning a wedding until you're sure it's what you want to do.

I agree, it's so nice to know someone else feels the same way <3 I'm more annoyed then anything else, especially since statistics say that women are like 14% more likely to get married every time one of their gal pals get married. I'm beginning to think they just get married to shut the nagging gal pals up!

[wrldendswithyou]

you are thinking smartly. not only do you hve your best interests at heart, but also his. don't let everyone asking you the same damn question bother you too much. All that matters is that you feel you are doing the right thing (which i agree with)

my dumbass brother is already talking about moving in and marrying this girl he s known for a month. love makes people do stupid shit. >

[nekosd43]

It's too bad that there is no mandatory waiting period on marriages. I think a lot of people would benefit from that.

And thanks. I know I'm doing the right thing for me, but I'm getting so tired of getting shit about it.

[n4nuk4]

♥ Haha

[nekosd43]

JESUS. I want to save this girl. I don't think she would ever listen to me but aaaaaah I feel compelled to mother her to death. But the good news is... when she has the baby, it will probably put a lot of things in perspective for her. They say that the mothering hormones do that. I mean, it's not a guarantee, but maybe she might get some sense in her head.

I get what you mean about the whole commitment thing, and that's exactly why I want the reverse for myself. People are always like "Well, you can be engaged and not get married any time soon," but I can't make that kind of commitment without being 100% certain about what I'm getting into. I need contingency plans, and I need an out if this relationship (God forbid) turns out to be something that isn't good for me.

But thaaank you <3 I do feel very confident in our relationship. And yeah, the whole sex ball of yarn is one we've just baaaarely looked at, so it's still this huge thing we would have to unravel. And also very important... just not one we can work on right

[nekosd43]

I won't lie, that made me lol for like five minutes. People asked me what was so funny and I couldn't explain it.

SERIOUSLY RIGHT? Even worse is most of my friends aren't even going to college and work minimum wage jobs. HOW DO YOU EXPECT TO GET MARRIED ON $8.50 AN HOUR?!? It's even crazy to get married right out of college, I have no idea why people do that to themselves. Love is not enough. Love does not pay for weddings ladies.