I can't even to begin to tell you the number of times I have asked myself the same question; there are those in family and out that seem to know everyone. I try to stay abreast of my 50-100 messages I get a week and almost never do. This is of course on top of my work as an Engineer receiving some 200+ emails a week. Burnt out is the minimum description I can think of. Maybe I need a secretary to handle it all and filter it down to a manageable level. Maybe in need to just not be so worried about responding. Naw, I would feel rude doing that... As Dad said: "You pays your money and make your choices."
I'm not on Facebook, I think they are evil and I do not want to be their product. But it seems like almost all of the people I only see at cons are completely immersed in Facebook and just assume that everyone knows things that got mentioned there.
LiveJournal used to be a good way for me to keep up with people I actually wanted to keep up with without a lot of pressure to add more people because the company wanted me to be on the site more. But hardly anyone ever posts here any more.
Assuming that someone reads everything on any social media site is a bad assumption - even the ones still configured to let you see everything. Facebook and it's curated feeds, where even in "recent" view, if I hit refresh I suddenly see a 3 day old birthday post because someone commented on it? Not a chance.
We change all the time and way too often. Our looks, our faces, our builds, our names, our genders, our connections, our careers, our successes, failures, gains and losses.
You don't have to keep up with every last event in our lives in order to call yourself a friend. No one expects that from others unless he's full of himself.
It can be kind of embarrassing to realize you didn't recognize a face or missed an important part in someone else's life. But you're usually not expected to when you only see someone in person once or twice a year.
Every person I've met has a "qualia," my own perception of who they are, their personality, courtesy, sense of humor, sense of confidence, how much they listen vs how much they talk. It's what it just feels like just to be around them, something that can never be put into words.
All you need to consider yourself someone's friend is knowing that feeling, what it's like to have their company, and looking forward to experiencing it again.
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LiveJournal used to be a good way for me to keep up with people I actually wanted to keep up with without a lot of pressure to add more people because the company wanted me to be on the site more. But hardly anyone ever posts here any more.
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You don't have to keep up with every last event in our lives in order to call yourself a friend. No one expects that from others unless he's full of himself.
It can be kind of embarrassing to realize you didn't recognize a face or missed an important part in someone else's life. But you're usually not expected to when you only see someone in person once or twice a year.
Every person I've met has a "qualia," my own perception of who they are, their personality, courtesy, sense of humor, sense of confidence, how much they listen vs how much they talk. It's what it just feels like just to be around them, something that can never be put into words.
All you need to consider yourself someone's friend is knowing that feeling, what it's like to have their company, and looking forward to experiencing it again.
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