Comments | natsuko1978: Thanks for that...

natsuko1978

Thanks for that...

Sep 29, 2015 09:34

I know this is me and my problem... but this is also why I have have come to hate Steve Rogers as written by most people.

TW: really bad decisions about how to help a panicking person, including coercion/threats/force. Memeories of being Sectioned.

( TW: Cut for discussion of PTSD, anxiety, panic attacks and bad responses to the same )

real life: mental health, fanfiction: warnings

Comments 5

halotolerant September 29 2015, 11:06:42 UTC

I'm so sorry this hit your triggers and made you feel so awful. It sounds like this author wanted to be responsible with tags but maybe didn't really know what they were dealing with in trying to write this stuff. Let's hope that there's no one in their day-to-day life that has these issues until they've gained some more insight about it all.

*hugs* I know this would take a while to get over, but really hope you are feeling a little better, and can feel safe yourself. *hugs*

natsuko1978 September 29 2015, 11:55:06 UTC

Thanks. I blame the Intervention! trope for the issues in this fic (and others like it) - if it is de rigueur in popular culture for friends and family to gather round in order to say, "Look, we all know you have a drink/drugs problem and we want you to get help. Now!" then why shouldn't that work for *other* problems, too ( ... )

msmoat September 29 2015, 12:08:20 UTC

Oh, yikes. I'm sorry. I haven't read the story, so I don't know what my own reaction would be. I'm ignorant, so I might have gone along with the story...I don't know. But I do know that your description of what should have happened not only makes perfect sense, but would have made such a better story. I mean, that scene? Helping Tony to feel "safe"...and all that would follow--wow.

So many things get written in fandom that are appalling, yet the author doesn't know. I think it speaks volumes about our culture. There was a Pros story that was written to be a cheerful little thing, but had all the classic signs of domestic abuse in it. I know the author didn't see it, and would be appalled if she had, but...yeah.

Anyway, I hope you can compartmentalize this story and let it fade. *Hugs*

natsuko1978 September 29 2015, 13:13:00 UTC

*HUGS* thanks! I always worry when I complain about a fic that I STOP reading (even if it's to do the mental-health equivalent of preventing a Hulk-out!) that I might be mis-judging ( ... )

I know this is me and my problem... fiorenza_a September 29 2015, 20:30:13 UTC

So what? You are entitled to be you and have your problems.

I don't know the fandom, or the character, but I have never agreed with forcibly outing anyone about anything. It is bullying, and it's dangerous bullying.

And I have never agreed with the 'intervention' model. Taking away from someone their feeling of safety is a stupid and sadistic thing to do.

And if this fic made you want to rant, then rant. It doesn't matter if you didn't finish it.

Some fics hit my buttons. I'm sure some of mine hit other people's. You're under no obligation to be fair to the author if that happens.

I like to think no one does it on purpose and none of us have a right to take our hurt out on the author, but ranting to a sympathetic audience, why not? It has to go somewhere.

I hope you're feeling better and much calmer now :0)