The Haunting Past . . .

[naamah_darling]

I'm going to tell you a very geeky thing about myself, and a rather creepy one. And then I'm going to tell you what happened this morning. And then I'm going to ask you to tell me what to do.

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[tis_caitlin]

OMG you like Tarot too? awesome band!

But back to the subject at hand..if she does call again, I'd give it a chance. No, you can't return to who you were, or who she was, or where you both were then..but perhaps who you are now, and who she is now, will jive in a way you might not expect..you never know, yanno? And if not..then you can put it to rest & get some closure, which is much easier to live with than friendships that end without closure.

Thanks for writing about this..it's given me some new perspective on some former friendships that I mourn the loss of as well.

[naamah_darling]

Tarot rule. I only have the one album, and am trying desperately to find others.

Anyway, thanks for reading! It feels better to be heard (even if the first half of that post was very, very odd). I'm just . . . well, we were as close as two people can be without actually being lovers. I've never gotten over it. I've never been good at having friends. But the prospect of having her back when suddenly my life is overflowing, busy, crowded with things/people I have no idea how to deal with . . . oh, it's a lot to think about.

Thanks for the reply. I feel better having gotten it out of my system.

I'm hoping she'll call. Hearing her voice . . . I shook for fifteen minutes. If she calls, I'll probably cry.

But if my imaginary friend shows back up, I am checking myself into a psycho ward. ;)

[kaye520]

I've recently started reading your stuff. Found you through one of your friends actually.

I wanted to just say that I have friends that I would like to hear from again but don't know what they would do if they heard from me again. One in particular that I think of all the time I was friends with for years and we didn't end the friendship badly, it just ended. We just moved on. I do miss her terribly and I know where and how to find her, but the thought of contacting her scares me to death, literally. I fear that she would judge me for the choices I've made in my life since we've parted and I can't bear that thought. I know that's not the kind of person she was but how do I know that she isn't that type now? Be lucky that a friend from your past had the courage to contact her. Since I don't know what caused the rift I won't advise you to do anything, just be grateful that she took the step.

I added you to my friends, hope you don't mind.

[naamah_darling]

As it turns out, it wasn't her at all (profoundly weird, found that out about a week after this entry, I think, when I went to see her).

Not much came of it, but I'm glad I made the overture.

It doesn't hurt to look up old friends as long as you keep it brief, polite, and don't try to push things too far. If the other person wants to re-establish the friendship, they will let you know in no uncertain terms.

At the very least, it might give you some closure.

[kaye520]

I thought about it alot lately now that I changed some things in my life. But the fact that I have moved over 2000 miles away from home now I don't think it would be possible to try and contact her. Plus, I have closed that chapter of my life a long time ago and I know that whatever caused the rift between us has been settled.

I got my closure on it, I only wonder if she did.

[naamah_darling]

I never got closure with her, which was why I did what I did. In the relationships I've had closure with, I've let them lie.

My experience is that where one person has closure, the other often does as well. The reverse is also true. I could be dead wrong, here, but that's just been my experience.

If you're okay, don't worry about it. Take the opportunity to see her if you have it, but don't break your back over it.