Genderfluid

[naamah_darling]

(I posted this on Dreamwidth and then wondered why I got no comments.  Turned out it didn't crosspost, so here it is.)

This is a really interesting personal story piece about being genderfluid:

I Am Genderfluid by Astrophe on Jezebel

Comments

[apocalypticbob]

I have a fantastic friend here in KC that identifies as gender fluid. They traverse things with amazing grace and kindness. I have asked them before if I may use them as a reference point, and they were okay with that, so I'm going to send you their direction, in case you don't know them. Many of their struggles, with regard to being a pocket sized ,female bodied, stacked in the chestal region, etc., are similar to yours, so while their narrative isn't identical (because no one's is) there are some touchstones that may help you feel less alone.

featherynscale

Tell them AmberBob sent you. Their preferred pronouns vary, so they identify as a fabulous monster. I've used gender neutral pronouns due to the subject nature at hand. Their given name is Kim.

[felisdemens]

I read this and can sympathize entirely.

[naamah_darling]

Ugh. Genderfluid superhero ninja cat hugs. All of them. So much fucking sympathy.

I at least have this massive advantage in that if I dress "like a guy" and I DO, every DAY, it's not perceived as a problem. I wear jeans and tee shirts or tank tops every day, and that's it. *shrugs* But for DMAB folks who LOOK very DMAB, it's way more volatile. That must be really rough, and I'm truly sorry.

Your ideal you sounds super awesome, though.

My ideal me is some Selene from Underworld, a teensy teensy dash of Khal Drogo, a whole lot of Gray Mouser, a little Ezio Auditore, a bunch of Belle from Beauty and the Beast, some Martha from Castle, all heavily coated with the goofball attitude of Hardison from Leverage. And maybe some Elsa, too, yes. XD

Thank you for speaking up. It actually means a lot more to me than I can really express.

[naamah_darling]

May we both move toward our own awesomeness, indeed. <3

Leverage was an amazing show about family of choice and nobody can ever convince me otherwise. You will love the show. It never once pissed me off.

Gray Mouser was the first fictional character that I really FELT, you know? I read those when I was about 12, and I wanted to be him SO BAD. I realize now there's some hinky problematic stuff in there here and there, but I still love those books. Lean Times In Lankhmar requires that you have read enough of the others to know the characters well, but once you do it is one of the funniest goddamn things you will ever read.

[cissa]

I have a lot of sympathy for people who are going through gender dysmorphia

[naamah_darling]

Thank you. <3

I hope so, too. It's better now than it used to be, for all that it's still pretty bad. But I have hope for this next generation. They're getting chances that mine and above never did.

[songblaze]

I wish that everyone else's gender was as well recognized and respected as mine is.

You're awesome. Your gender - female, male, fluid, set, nonexistent - is yours, and nothing for me to have any judgment over. Your body, your parts, your sense of who you are. And all of those are yours to decide what you do with and who you do it with and what you tell people about them. I've got exactly no ownership over it, and no right to judge what your are, what you feel, and what you do with yourself.

*HUG* I hope being 'out' feels good!

[naamah_darling]

Heh. *hugs* Thank you. <3

It feels about the same. Not many people who read this wouldn't have known already, and the potential consequences in my everyday life are negligible. But it feels good to have said it. It does.