Comments | mysticxf: talk about awkward

mysticxf

talk about awkward

May 21, 2007 15:29

I just had a ten minute conversation with my manager about how she thinks it's weird that I feel like I'm ready for marraige and children. [Clarification -- this lead to the discussion of me getting a husband and having children.] I've learned that, apparently, for beautiful, physically fit women with perfect tans, great hair and oodles of self- ( Read more... )

dreams, work

Comments 16

rogueapprentice May 21 2007, 19:40:27 UTC

That bitch. X-(

mysticxf May 21 2007, 20:01:11 UTC

She wasn't being malicious, she just honestly doesn't see the problem. I think sometimes the "pretty" girls really take their beauty for granted.

PS: Your icon just made me almost LOL at work.

isis2015 May 21 2007, 20:27:38 UTC

:/

I shall let my icon speak for me.

mysticxf May 21 2007, 22:21:39 UTC

You know, this season I have a WHOLE new appreciation for Sun. I liked her before, but now, she ranks up there as one of my faves.

*snuggles* Make the stupid people go away.

10esmani12191 May 21 2007, 20:33:48 UTC

*huggles for muggles* Don't I feel the same way...I mean, even though I'm no where near getting married yet (that won't be for another 10 or so years), I definitely know how you feel. I don't think half the "pretty" girls anywhere really get what it's like to be otherwise. But what can we do? *shrug*

I guess for me this is where being Indian and having an arranged marriage later on comes in handy for once in my life lol

Don't worry, I'm sure you'll find someone because who wouldn't want to be with the woman who makes hysterical comments and icons? (; Keep your chin up if it's down (:

mysticxf May 21 2007, 22:31:40 UTC

I always saw myself married with a kid or two by this age. Now I'm watching one sister celebrate anniversaries while the other lives with her boyfriend and my parents are talking about traveling together alone and I'm like, "Where did I go wrong?" And there's no good answer except that I just did.

Pretty girls don't GET it at all.

You have an arranged marriage situation? Do you HAVE to?

And thanks. *hugs* I keep hoping for the right guy, we'll see what happens. ;)

10esmani12191 May 22 2007, 01:05:01 UTC

I think everyone always envisions themselves at a certain age to do certain things, but most of the time for some reason, it just doesn't work out. I guess the only thing you can do is just like....put yourself out there? I know it's easier said than done cause I can't even do that since I'm always super low on confidence. But I know you'll find the right guy some day (:

But yeah I have to. It's complicated but if I don't, I'm kind of bringing shame? to the family name. My parents are old traditional so that definitely sucks obviously lol. I do have a plan though...I'll find a nice non gangster Indian in college and I'll trick my parents into thinking it's an arranged marriage when I'm in my late 20s when really it's not LOL. Aren't I so devious? d:

eponine119 May 21 2007, 22:00:42 UTC

I think you just need to put yourself out there. Not everyone who is married is or was perfect, y'know? And to put yourself out there, you need to work on the way you feel about yourself. If none of these elements changes, nothing else will change either, most likely.

It's hard for almost everybody. *hugs*

mysticxf May 21 2007, 22:46:37 UTC

I know marriage isn't perfect, heh, I watch Melo and Luke fight all the time. ;)

It's all a thing of confidence but confidence isn't something I can just HAVE. And I have the problem I always have. I'm motivated to change, but the stuff I need to change and the idea that it won't work depresses me so much it kills my motivation. I'm not being negative, I've TRIED. I'm just not trying hard enough I guess, but I'm tired.

*eats Key Lime Pie and pouts*

*hands over slice*

It's nummy.

eponine119 May 21 2007, 23:00:15 UTC

Oh, babe, I know. I decided to go to therapy to get some help with the changes I need to make but can't find a way to, and I STILL haven't been able to make myself make the phone call to set up an appointment. It's hard. Good thing there's pie. *licks fingers*

bredalot May 21 2007, 22:49:34 UTC

Heh. While I'm not tan and I don't feel objective enough to say whether I'm beautiful or not, it ought to be fairly easy for me to pick someone up. And I NEVER get hit on (what, twice this year?), not even at frat parties where everyone else does. My friends say it's because I'm standoffish and overwhelming in turns, which isn't good unless people already know and like me. Frankly, I don't understand what you're supposed to do to get guys to like you. When people start talking to me, I make a very good first impression - I just don't know how to draw people to me or how to keep them liking me. Bad combination.

I'm sorry she made you feel awkward. Lopsided conversations are MOST unpleasant. But that's what LJ's for, right? Pick the people you associate with and have no idea what they look like! :D

mysticxf May 22 2007, 11:19:15 UTC

Ah, but see, you're easily "fixable". Just keep in mind that some might find you "standoffish" or whatever (I probably have the same problem, but it's years of being ignored, so now I ignore everyone thinking they're just ignoring me) and you can be more approachable. I don't think you're standoffish, I think you're sweet and awesome. ♥

I don't understand what you're supposed to do to get guys to like you.I used to think that if you were just their friends that eventually they'd wisen up and go, "Hey wait, I like spending time with this girl and we can talk for hours... that sounds like a good girlfriend/wife!" but these days everyone's about the instant satisfaction. No one seems to care about the "long run". That's why marriages don't work, people aren't disciplined enough to MAKE it work, they don't CARE. They're like, "I've had my fun, let's move on to the next person and hope they're the 'right' one." But they pick the people for all the wrong reasons ( ... )