Stuffing It

[myshanter]

People have such different styles of dealing with conflicts. My husband yells and stomps and goes off and comes back and yells more. I do the same, and then we talk. And it gets better, until next time. I find comfort in this. I might be crying while we fight, and so might he, but I know we will come back together in the end

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[angeliquedaemon]

Well I'm kind of like your wife, though to be fair, the reason I don't talk about it right away is because I'm analyzing the data and trying to decide whether or not I'm just being a bitch. She, on the other hand, sounds like pretty much everyone in boyfriend's family, who never talk about anything, no matter how upset they are. *I* still haven't figured out how to cope with this either, because my first reaction is actually the same as yours: scream, yell and stomp, what I do now has been learned behavior.

What I've been doing is giving it a couple days to let both parties cool off, and then try bringing it up again in a reasonable, even tone. Sometimes you have to apologize, even if you feel that you're entirely right/justified, but it's worth it to work things out. So far this has worked about 80% of the time. The other 20%... well no plan is perfect, and sometimes you just have to wait until THEY'RE ready to bring it up.

[naa]

I apologize for not responding earlier, I completely missed the post & during the time you posted I was going through medical problems.

I wish you update more.

I hope things have gotten better for you. Feel free to drop me a line anytime!