forgiveness

[myscratchpost]

while reading Journey into God's Heart, the chapter where tony left Jennifer broke my heart. it was a chapter so full of pain and betrayal felt by her but yet beautifully woven with words of acceptance, faith and forgiveness. from jennifer, i realise that forgiveness can be such a hard process even for people who are so annointed, simply because we

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[anonymous]

neko! want to talk to rim about it?

[myscratchpost]

nyaaa talked! arigatou neko! =)

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[theturtlebook]

I feel really inadequate on this subject. Haha.

To put it in a mild way, I'm not really a forgiving person. (I carry my anger and hate for a very very long time.) I find it extremely hard to get rid of it. So usually I don't.

For me, time is usually enough to bland the anger. I can't forgive, but I usually forget. Forget why I was angry, forget why I hated. Of course this takes an unusually long time, but I guess this is my own way of handling the issues.

But one thing that bothers me is that by washing off the anger with time, I don't think I have ever truly forgiven. Which really irks me sometimes. Ugh.

[myscratchpost]

yes i so agree with you~~~ with time, we tend to forget e reason of anger and the feeling of anger but that is not forgiveness, its just poor memory! and i hate that feeling. and if i think harder enough, i realise anger can easily be drawn back if true forgiveness was never given.

[theturtlebook]

Hmm. I wonder how exactly do you go about truly forgiving someone? Is having the intention enough? If deep down I truly want to forgive a person, but I still feel a little anger - which I suppress - whenever I see/think about the person. Is that forgiving?

[myscratchpost]

of coz everything begins with an intention to do it right!
if u suppress that bit of anger every time u think/see that person in question, u are acting out the act of forgiving in my opinion.

what do you think about that? (and xinyi too)

[solitude_in_me]

Hmmm...before I post my opinions can I like ask about why and how do you feel about betrayal. Of course you can reply me online and not on your blog.

[myscratchpost]

betrayal sucks big time (duh) and to me its not about understanding the individual itself and his/her actions to be able to forgive, coz most of the time anger/disappointment consumes and the mind just refuses to put itself in his/her shoes.

i've come to learn one thing which helps. if i stop viewing them as individuals but as humans in general, just like myself, and think that "no humans are perfect, and no humans can love and fulfill his/her words like God does totally." it seems much easier to accept their doings and hurtful actions and also seem much easier to forgive ourselves with the faith that God will forgive us.

basically, bring everything back to God and view things with God in mind and alot of things seem way smaller and insignificant than before as compared to the love we are given.

[solitude_in_me]

I look at things in a different manner because my brain overrules my heart. Rather than putting myself into the shoes of others, I would choose to accept the path is the most logical. Who suffers when you get angry/disappointed with the person? You, and not the person who betrayed you. The person will not feel your anger and not get your pain

[myscratchpost]

on the contary, i think the initial reaction is not anger. as a betrayal is only one when the person is of importance to oneself, i think the initial reaction is denial and/or guilt, wondering what horrible stuff did i do to cause enough damage to end us up in this situation. then after a while as reality sets in and more confusion going on trying to solved that question, prolly anger will set in at this point of time