Changing focus
David and I ended up not going to practice yesterday after all. He was still suffering from the cold/flu that had him out of work a few days last week. He knew he wouldn't be able to do the practice without coughing up a lung or something. Plus one of the women is newly pregnant and we didn't want to bring germs to the group. So we stayed home
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And if it were me, I would definitely mention that the woman is a big reason for your departure. Didn't you say she's done this to other newcomers in the group? I think the group needs to know, so that even if they do nothing about it, they'll be conscious of it and if this woman continues her behavior and drives other new members away, they'll maybe take note of the pattern and then be willing to do something about it. And if there's an awkwardness at social events, it'll be because of her, not you ;)
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Your already-bought kit would be welcome in the SCA, or not (unless you'd rather recoup its costs from another 15th c member).
And the authenticity geeks generally have a lighter touch - at least, I've found it so.
I'd definitely, definitely explain why you're leaving.
If the group know of the problem member and do nothing, that's one thing.
If they realise it's actively driving away useful friendly capable people, they may summon up the courage to corner her and tell her to stuff it, at least with newcomers.
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Unfortunately those rude, overbearing, know-it-all types of people are frequently in living history groups. There has been one (to one degree or another) in every group I've ever been a part of. More often than not they are running them - sometimes officially, more often unofficially. One of the prices of volunteer groups I guess. It's really too bad.
Good luck on your next living history adventure! I hope you find someplace you love!
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