I'm a bi-sexual female, but before I realised my sexuality, I used the term "girl crush" as a word I would use about a girl I found attractive, who (bar in mind I was straight at the time), I wouldn't mind being 'intimate' with. In all honestly, I think it's a term that females used so they don't sound like a lesbian.
It might not be deliberately offensive but it qualifies same-sex attraction as non-lesbian, non-queer,a straight oddness, and therefore I find it annoying, a bit like that Kate Perry song. But mostly, I would never be interested in a girl who has a "girl crush" rather than "crush".
i personally have no issue with the word, i am a totallyconfusedbutleaningtowardbeingbiorpan girl and i hear it regularly, i am even guilty of using myself, i don't have any issue with it, you know it's just what ever to me. perhaps i am setting the entire gay rights movement back a few years but i just see no issue with it.
Offensive? No. Socially acceptable way to think another female is attractive without fear of being called "gay?" Yes. Which strikes me as a conundrum because over the past severalhowevermanyears, it's become super cool to say you're bi! and make out with other females for some attention. Pfft.
I suppose some people just want to make extra sure that others don't think they're queer for finding beauty in the same sex, heaven forbid!
I can't recall for sure whether or not I've used it -- I can hardly remember what I ate for lunch -- but I have no reservations about saying a woman is beautiful and being attracted to her if that's how I feel. No need to throw a disclaimer out there. People are beautiful...gender doesn't determine attraction in my books. But to each, his own.
Comments 4
Reply
Reply
Reply
I suppose some people just want to make extra sure that others don't think they're queer for finding beauty in the same sex, heaven forbid!
I can't recall for sure whether or not I've used it -- I can hardly remember what I ate for lunch -- but I have no reservations about saying a woman is beautiful and being attracted to her if that's how I feel. No need to throw a disclaimer out there. People are beautiful...gender doesn't determine attraction in my books. But to each, his own.
Reply
Leave a comment