the time to act is now

Jun 11, 2009 13:47

Thanks for all the support everyone. For some reason, I feel better today after reading through a gore manga and then having a breakdown that kept me up until 2am. Oddly, that makes me better rather than worse ( Read more... )

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advice sankakukoen June 11 2009, 06:33:05 UTC
I think you need to tell Yoga that he is flat out being a douche. I know he's depressed, but if the relationship is becoming such an emotional drain on you that you're getting depressed too it's no good for anyone. There's no excuse for not contacting your girlfriend for days on end. I'm sure he probably feels pretty useless about right now and maybe like you deserve better because of his depression, so he might be trying to passive-agressively break up with you by making you dump him first. When you mail him, I'd make sure to tell him that you do care about him a lot regardless of his mental state, but if he cares about you he will put his problems aside at least some of the time and put effort into the relationship. I doubt it's that he's tired of you, it just sounds like he's getting so down on himself he doesn't see the point any more and probably that you'd be better off with someone else ( ... )

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Re: advice murasaki_kaze June 11 2009, 07:03:01 UTC
That sounds...really accurate. He says he has no energy and that he doesn't know what to do anymore and he's passively remarked about how he's useless and だめ人間. I guess I'll send him a revised version of the email and see what's going on, but I don't know if my Japanese is up to a heart to heart. :( I'll try though. Maybe I'll call him instead.

And yeah, I need exercise and stimulation that I'm not getting by sitting in front of my computer/at work all day long. I couldn't be tired of you all! You're part of the reason why I stay in Japan at all anymore. D:

Tomorrow's my sports festival, but afterward, if I'm up to it, I might come out.

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tomochi June 11 2009, 07:45:44 UTC
You have to do what's best for you, because the idea of considering the two of you as an "us" has escaped his own view at the moment. If he's not interested in keeping the both of you connected, and both of your welfare in mind, even with a simple response, call, etc, then you just gotta step up and take charge.

Contacting is a good idea. Make sure again, you do what you think will be best in the long run. I hope things work out for you, hon. <3

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murasaki_kaze June 12 2009, 07:07:49 UTC
Thanks and things worked out. I had him call me to see if he'd actually do it and he did. We talked for about an hour and things are back to normal. He was just so stuck inside his own head that he hadn't realized he was making me upset.

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tomochi June 12 2009, 18:38:09 UTC
Good show. Talking is sometimes the hardest thing. I was discussing it with the boy, and he said that there was nothing worst than feeling like he wasn't up to par in front of the one person who mattered the most. Your boy was probably feeling something of the same.

<3 Glad it got sorted through.

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kagayuzen June 11 2009, 08:24:47 UTC
Played a prank on someone? - Yes
What is it, I must know :O

Aww, I hope you feel better. Slaying Templars is always fun stuff.

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murasaki_kaze June 12 2009, 07:10:32 UTC
Nothing quite as interesting as you think. XD; I do small pranks all the time, but once I convinced someone that Canadia was an island off the cost of California.

And I feel better. Thanks♥

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murasaki_kaze June 12 2009, 07:06:53 UTC
Region 2? I don't really know. It's the region different from Europe and America though. :( Also, I can get the DVD for like...800yen, but I'd rather get a new one than a used copy. When most DVDs cost 40$USD here, I'll take 15$USD as a bargain.

And we talked. Things are better now. He was just being a boy and didn't realize he was making me depressed by being a shut-in.

And I don't need a punch bag. |D That's what video games are for. \o/

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