[LD22] Neurolinguistics bites my arse

[much_ado]

Yesterday I had an opportunity to go to the pool at lunch, and did not take it; I had plausible reasons - excuses, really - but as I reflect on those reasons today, I find that I am grappling with insidious neurolinguistic responses tied to my ownership of (or avoidance thereof) my own decision-making processes

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[dicea]

I think that maybe the first step to learning how to whistle in the dark is not learning how to whistle but learning how to tell when it is dark.

Thank you for this.

[much_ado]

I think it can go either way, really. Sometimes the order of learning matters less than *that* we learn, when there's little difference in efficiency of one order over another.

Sometimes I need to stop thinking, just put my lips together, and blow :)

[quingawaga]

Semi-related to this:

Instead of Saying "I Don’t Have Time," Say "It’s Not a Priority"

[much_ado]

That's a good read, E, thank you (Some of the comments are funny, though; I can't see myself using "I've added [X] to my backlog" in a personal context, but it's a really amusing juxtaposition of "what's appropriate" in different contexts :)

[foms]

I focused on:
"the statement, "I am choosing not to do [X], and instead choosing to do [Y] even though it does NOT align with my previously stated values" is a friggin' HARD statement to make"
and
"Not that the reasons aren't important, but you can't finesse a skill before you learn the basic, gross motor movements of the action"

I try to see my rationale for a choice as a guide to how I am feeling at the time of the choice (as compared with the time of the previously stated values) and to where my balance is between short-term and long-term comfort. I work toward bringing the recognition of long-term discomfort into my immediate decision-making process as a part of my mental muscle-memory.

Good observations.

[much_ado]

I try to see my rationale for a choice as a guide to how I am feeling at the time of the choice (as compared with the time of the previously stated values) and to where my balance is between short-term and long-term comfort.

For people who have better overall awareness of, and adherence to, living close to their values, I think this is a fine idea. For myself, the sometimes-wildly-divergent incongruity between what I say I want and what I actually do, often tells me that something's not right there. I don't trust myself, insofar as my linguistics are showing me, to not use the short-term (dis)comforts as rationalizations to not stick to my stated values. It's too easy to say, "Nah I don't feel like it" rather than doing what is uncomfortable or uneasy; it would be nice if adhering to my own values *WAS* easy, but I'm too human to think it'll ever get that far :-P