I've been pondering on this. Do you find a dog that is older and needs little direction or do you look long term and find one that listens and is trainable? Do you pick a smart dog or one that just follows? Animals do change over time and can learn new tricks.... LEB
so if we're doing the person metaphor thing, i don't really want to train anyone. i'm old enough, and the guys i'm dating are old enough, to know who we are, if people want to do "self-improvement", then that should come from them. not my job, not my place. people can learn new tricks, but that should never be an expectation. that being said, i'm not saying people don't learn to work better together after a while. i'm saying that if he doesn't believe that being house-trained is a good idea now, our value systems probably won't ever be compatible
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I'm in agreement about having a smart person within a relationship. I'm sure there is a correlation between people with college education who marry people with the same education level or higher. Maybe "training" was the wrong word. I've noticed differences in age generations and this is where I was going. In particular, I have a friend,mid-twenties, still in school who is dating one of my friends who has never really caught on to the fact that her friends and boyfriend do nice things for her like pay for drinks,dinner,etc. and she has not learned to reciprocate. I reflect in my life back to my twenties and I probably was similar in nature because I had no money. My friend and I have talked about this a few times and we wonder if we should some how explain this to her or just accept and move on. Back to the journal, :) do you help your significant other understand the subtle difference? and how?
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