No child sees their mother as a person. They see their mother as a role. We’re not women, not people with significant (or insignificant) aspirations to our children: we’re their mothers.
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My thoughts on yesterday’s news. It is not a happy post; I am trying not to rant. )
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Clearly he had issues but they should have been recognised and dealt with, rather than ignored or even (god forbid) encouraged.
Nice unrant - very perceptive and as ever, well written!
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It would be real interesting to find out why some people end up like this and others grow up.
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But for the people on the other end of this - the emotional, maternal stand-in - it’s hugely uncomfortable.
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Though I do think society is full of hidden (and not so hidden) attitudes that encourage these toddler-adults to believe that they're entitled to be loved as a child is loved. This is not a purely internal thing, in my opinion; I think it is also being encouraged from outside. Then we're surprised when its logical conclusion flowers in violence and blood.
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