You shouldn't beat yourself up because what's fun for others is not fun for you! *hugs* I crochet for fun and do all sorts of art things, I wouldn't expect anyone else to find that fun! Whatever makes you happy and helps you relax, that's your fun. But I get that it's hard to run against the cultural "norm" of drinking and clubbing but really most people who enjoy that stuff lack the imagination to do anything different than what they were told is the fun thing to do. I would never pity you, Po *hugs* You are amazing and never let anyone tell you any different!
I'm on AIM if you ever wanna chat, you can look me up as heysteen (I think that's how you look me up?) or I'm on Google Talk as sunhawk(at)gmail.com :)
It's not just clubbing though, it's pretty much everything. I wish I knew how to unwind my mind and let my body all loose, simply in order to be healthier and not die from stress at like 40. I have a feeling that just lounging in front of a TV isn't going to help, and while I LOVE spin class, it makes my muscles very stiff, and I need something to make that go away. So far nothing's helped, be it yoga or copious amounts of alcohol. I have way too much self-control. This might be totally TMI, but thank goodness I learned how to get myself off around eight years ago. *blushes* It must help in that department, right?
I'll definitely look you up if I ever get on either of those. You're very important to me. *hugs back*
P.S. I don't know if you've ever watched the Big Bang Theory, but there was this one episode where the character of Sheldon said something that applies to this rather well: "They were having fun the wrong way." (I identify with him in general a LOT.)
Hi dear! I don't really know what to say. Nice to hear of you, even if it's on a somewhat unhappy note. I agree with Steen that no one should feel bad about the things that bring/don't bring them enjoyment, but I also agree with you that finding some way to relax is super-important. And I guess that's something only you can figure out since it's so different for everyone. I look at photos of baby animals and run on the treadmill to shut down my brain, but that's just me.
I also know it's really difficult sometimes to be a loner and embrace it. I guess for me it helped that I acknowledged that my need for human company varies wildly and idiosyncratically and realized that if I'm happier sitting home alone watching DVDs for three days running, then that's what I should do. (And also to reach out when I do want to be around people.)
As said, I don't really have any useful advice since these things are so individual. So I'll just send you virtual hugs instead.
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I'm on AIM if you ever wanna chat, you can look me up as heysteen (I think that's how you look me up?) or I'm on Google Talk as sunhawk(at)gmail.com :)
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It's not just clubbing though, it's pretty much everything. I wish I knew how to unwind my mind and let my body all loose, simply in order to be healthier and not die from stress at like 40. I have a feeling that just lounging in front of a TV isn't going to help, and while I LOVE spin class, it makes my muscles very stiff, and I need something to make that go away. So far nothing's helped, be it yoga or copious amounts of alcohol. I have way too much self-control. This might be totally TMI, but thank goodness I learned how to get myself off around eight years ago. *blushes* It must help in that department, right?
I'll definitely look you up if I ever get on either of those. You're very important to me. *hugs back*
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I also know it's really difficult sometimes to be a loner and embrace it. I guess for me it helped that I acknowledged that my need for human company varies wildly and idiosyncratically and realized that if I'm happier sitting home alone watching DVDs for three days running, then that's what I should do. (And also to reach out when I do want to be around people.)
As said, I don't really have any useful advice since these things are so individual. So I'll just send you virtual hugs instead.
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