Meme Response: Marriage

[mrvi]

I am ambivalent about marriage. I really don't have much of opinion. Within the context of legal recognition, I believe the love of individuals  regardless of gender, should enable those person to certain legal protections and rights. Personally, I don't find marriage a necessary thing, outside of that. If however, one wishes a ceremonial marking

Comments

[mr_jez]

Marriage seems to be about making an existing situation clear; partly to the couple getting married (though I'd hope that they'd really worked out where they were long before this!), but mostly to their families, friends and community.

[mrvi]

Oh, I don't disagree. My point is that I personally feel I'm clear enough in my feelings. So any marriage isn't actually for me, outside of the legal protections - if that makes sense? I feel no particular want to get married, in myself. If I do, it will be because my partner wants it, or for legal reasons.

[mr_jez]

You wouldn't want it for your family, friends or community as well?

[mrvi]

I'm not sure what you mean here. Friends/Family/community would have no say in whether I got married or not. Whether I got married would be down to me and my partner. Would I hold a ceremony for friends/family/community to witness, if it were to happen? Yes, of course.

[luvlymish]

Thanks - sorry it wasn't a particularly empassioned subject for you - I was genuinely curious.

[mrvi]

No need to be sorry. It's just not something I care about either way ;)

[bhriste]

I think to me, a big part of why getting married would be important is tied up in the cultural/communal import that is put on it. There is a big difference between "girlfriend" and "wife" I think just semantically and I think that importance has been instilled in me enough to make it important to me about how I see the status of my relationship and how the rest of the world sees the status of my relationship.

I say "I think" because I'm not actually all that sure! All I do know is that for me emotionally I know that I care about getting married, it is a big deal for me even if all the things that marriage entails (lifelong partnership, children, financial co-dependence) are already established as "the plan".

[mostlyfoo]

I think I grok you on this front :)